Older kid gets bigger bedroom by default?

[pantherlj]

moving to a new house and wondering what others do. why don't they make all bedrooms the same size

14 year old and 11 year old - the bedrooms are very clearly different in size.

 

[kacaju]

moving to a new house and wondering what others do. why don't they make all bedrooms the same size

14 year old and 11 year old - the bedrooms are very clearly different in size.

I say yes...unless you have 3 kids.. my oldest got the smaller room, but she was by herself while her 2 younger sisters got the bigger room, but had to share.

 

[minkydog]

The bigger room goes to the older child until she graduates HS, after which the larger room immediately goes to the younger child, if she wants it at that time.

 

[momto2girls]

That's how it works in our family. My older DD has the larger room, but it turns out that her bathroom is smaller than her sister's. So, it is all good.

I think that the oldest gets the biggest room, but that room should pass on to the younger one (if he/she wants it) once the older one goes to college/moves out.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

Yes. My oldest has the biggest room. Same for me when I was growing up.

 

[Handbag Lady]

They are lucky they get their own room at all. I had to share a room with my only sibling (my sister) my entire life. A guy I dated had it worse; he had to share a room with his sister their whole life.

I really doesn't make any sense that home-builders make bedrooms different sizes, other than the master bedroom.

 

[Riles_and_Gabe]

I would say yes. That is how it is in my home. My older son gets the bigger room. My younger one can have it when the older one goes to college if he wants it.

 

[LJSquishy]

I don't have kids, but yes, the eldest child gets the largest (or best) bedroom by default. That is, unless you have some kids that share a room -- in that case, the kids that have to share get the largest bedroom.

 

[1girln3boys]

We let our oldest choose from 2 rooms. She chose the smaller of the 2. The other 2 rooms were joined with a bathroom so those 2 went to the younger 2.

 

[cleverclovers]

Oldest usually gets the larger bedroom. Thus perpetuating the "first born (or oldest) gets the best of everything and the youngest always gets the leftovers" stigma.
Yes, I'm the younger daughter and a middle child. Don't get me started.

 

[bookgirl]

As a youngest child I'll just say now.....

This thread sucks!

Oldest always gets to pick first, gets the new stuff, gets the biggest room, etc.

Yeah, I'm still bitter.


I'd go with who has more stuff?

 

[Jill in Chicago]

Does the younger child spend more time in his/her room playing on the floor with toys? If so it makes more sense to give the younger child the larger room. When we moved both rooms were close to the same size.

 

[Bluestars]

In our family the older child got the biggest bedroom. When the oldest child moved out, the next younger child got the bedroom. I do not think the youngest gets ripped off. From my experience, the youngest usually gets more in the long run because the family is more stable and better off financially. That might not be how it is in all families, but that's how it was for me growing up and with my own family.

 

[cjbcam]

That's not fair (coming from the youngest in my family) I understand letting the oldest getting to do stuff like later curfew etc. But always giving the oldest first choice for everything is like playing favorites. In my own family I chose rooms for all the kids based on other reasons. My oldest is downstairs, my next two DD share the biggest upstairs (next to the master) and my son gets the other. These were chose because my oldest wanted to be downstairs, my next oldest did not want the other bedroom in basement so she shares and its more practical to have bigger room than my son who is by himself.

 

[jenlynn0808]

I'm the oldest, and I always had the smaller room. My parents bought their first house when my Mom was very pregnant with my sister. My Grandparents were getting ready to move out of state and gave them a queen size bed set they no longer needed. It went in the bigger of the two kids bedrooms, plus there was still room for the crib. Hence, my sister's bedroom. On the plus side, whenever my grandparents visited my sister lost her bedroom and I got to keep mine.

 

[Alsobrook]

gender of children and what's the closet and bathroom situation? That makes all the difference....

 

[sam_gordon]

I agree, oldest should get their choice of bedroom (unless it's a case of a shared bedroom). And I agree the youngest benefits in different ways. Not only is (in theory) the family in better financial shape, but I'm guessing parents are also more lenient and forgiving with younger children.

 

[tvguy]

DS is older and got the 16 x 10 bedroom, DD got the 9 x 10 bedroom.
DS moved out, we expected DD to want his room. She wants nothing to do with it.
Of course she has a single loft bed with 2 dressers under it, DS's room has a double bed, and dresser against the wall, so, because of the furniture, her smaller room actually has more move around space.

 

[sonnyjane]

The bigger room goes to the older child until she graduates HS, after which the larger room immediately goes to the younger child, if she wants it at that time.

This.

Unless there is some other type of feature that makes a room more appealing - for example, growing up (I'm the oldest) I didn't have the largest bedroom, but it was in the attic so I had a floor to myself. In another house, I picked a room that had a powder room attached even though it wasn't the biggest.

When I moved out, my brother moved into that room.

 

[Jaya]

I had my own bedroom because I was considerably older than the rest of my three sisters (who shared a large room). I left for college on a Sunday, but had to come home on Friday for a doctor's appointment and in those five days, my room had been repainted, recarpeted and had different furniture in it and a new occupant. I got the couch in the living room thereafter.