Is this disgusting or am I overreacting?

[Hikergirl]

All of those who are saying it's gross or rude... do you ever go to the beach or pool and use the loungers there? I'm guessing there were plenty of bare feet on those.

I think the difference is that when you go to the beach, you expect to kick off your flip flops and lounge and expect everyone else to do the same.
You really don't expect to see someone doing that out at a restaurant.
I wouldn't have noticed, and I do think it is poor etiquette, but nothing that would have me bothered enough to snap a pic and post about it. If I saw it, I'd probably lean in to my kids and tell them not to do that, especially when out with their very proper Grandmother.

 

[sam_gordon]

I think the difference is that when you go to the beach, you expect to kick off your flip flops and lounge and expect everyone else to do the same.
You really don't expect to see someone doing that out at a restaurant.
I wouldn't have noticed, and I do think it is poor etiquette, but nothing that would have me bothered enough to snap a pic and post about it. If I saw it, I'd probably lean in to my kids and tell them not to do that, especially when out with their very proper Grandmother.

But what's the difference?
Outdoor facility? Check
Chairs exposed to the weather? Check
Feet from someone else on those chairs? Check
Your clothing or skin touching where someone else's feet touched? Check.

 

[Hikergirl]

But what's the difference?
Outdoor facility? Check
Chairs exposed to the weather? Check
Feet from someone else on those chairs? Check
Your clothing or skin touching where someone else's feet touched? Check.

Just your basic table manners I guess.
I wouldn't do that at home, and I wouldn't let my kids do that either, but I'd let them lounge out on the deck by the pool barefoot all the want.
I don't know if I'd call it gross- I just was raised in a way where that (feet up on a chair while eating at the table) wouldn't be acceptable, whether one was barefoot or not. What others do with their feet is their business.

 

[soccerdad72]

All of those who are saying it's gross or rude... do you ever go to the beach or pool and use the loungers there? I'm guessing there were plenty of bare feet on those.

I'm not in the gross camp, but the significant different in your comparison is that beach loungers, by their very nature, are intended to have feet on them. A chair in a restaurant is not.

 

[ScottOKW2K]

It is disgusting !

A Lemon in one glass and a Lime in the other !?! The horror of it all

 

[sam_gordon]

I'm not in the gross camp, but the significant different in your comparison is that beach loungers, by their very nature, are intended to have feet on them. A chair in a restaurant is not.

But either way, feet are in chairs that butts are sitting in.

 

[Hikergirl]

It is disgusting !

A Lemon in one glass and a Lime in the other !?! The horror of it all

Joking aside, that IS actually the grossest part of the whole situation.
Never get a lemon slice in your drink from the bar, especially if you are a germaphobe.

 

[chicagodisneyfan]

Doesnt bother me in an outdoor venue on a nice day. Fine dining? Maybe that would give me pause. But I doubt it. Just not on my radar.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

Have you ever had plantars warts? They are painful, and can take forever, with surgery, to remove. So, yeah, I don't want to ever get them again, and so prefer that people keep their feet covered or at least off the furniture in public places.

My daughter's dance studio had a wart issue at one time - they are pretty easy to catch if you have areas with sweaty, bare feet. It's also why they recommend college students wear flip-flops in the showers, etc. There's also athlete's foot, HFM, parasitic worms... And then who knows what's been on the floor that your bare feet just stepped on, and then you get it in your shoe.

Sweaty bare feet in hot moist environments (swimming pools, dance studios). I'm not sure you will catch the strain of HPV by sitting on a chair where feet had been in a restaurant. I mean, I guess anything's possible, but it's super unlikely.

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/plantar-warts/symptoms-causes/syc-20352691

 

[anniemae]

All of those who are saying it's gross or rude... do you ever go to the beach or pool and use the loungers there? I'm guessing there were plenty of bare feet on those.

I think it's just that when you are at a pool or the beach, you expect people to be in wet bathing suits and barefoot, you expect sand, you expect kids to be throwing frisbees around, you expect to hear children shrieking with delight at the water, you expect to get splashed with water etc. That is totally appropriate and fine for the beach.

Not so much in a restaurant. We have rules in society and even the most basic restaurants say "no shoes, no shirt, no service." To me there are certain rules to be followed in restaurants. I taught my kids at a very young age how to act in a restaurant. No yelling, no getting up and wandering around, no throwing crayons on the floor etc. and yes, you keep your clothes and shoes on. To me it's just basic restaurant etiquette, which is different than beach etiquette. Just my opinion. Even if it's a casual outdoor type restaurant, it's still a restaurant. Put it this way, since it's an outdoor type restaurant would it be okay if a bunch of teenagers set up a volleyball net and started a game right in the middle of a restaurant? It's outside, like at a beach right? No of course not.

 

[Minnesota!]

Doesn't bother me. Nose blowing, however, does! Go to the bathroom for that ish..

 

[declansdad]

OP I think it was an over-reaction. I personally wouldn't do it but I wouldn't be offended by it either. I don't really see how it is different than everything else that gets touched in a public place.

As for blowing my nose at the table, if I have tissues available I would blow my nose.

 

[luvsJack]

Just your basic table manners I guess.
I wouldn't do that at home, and I wouldn't let my kids do that either, but I'd let them lounge out on the deck by the pool barefoot all the want.
I don't know if I'd call it gross- I just was raised in a way where that (feet up on a chair while eating at the table) wouldn't be acceptable, whether one was barefoot or not. What others do with their feet is their business.

I think a better comparison may be at the picnic table on a deck, eating bbq by the pool. Maybe feet propped up on the bench.

If she was at an inside table, ok, maybe bad manners and all that. I just don’t think it’s a big deal in the setting she is in.

Honestly I don’t think I have ever looked around a restraint, inside or out and looked to see if everyone has their shoes on?

 

[goofyernmost]

I don't think it's something I'd do but I don't think it would bother me in an outdoor setting like this.

Blowing the nose I agree with you completely though.

So would you rather see snot running out of someones nose, or listen to them coughing due to sinus drainage. I have yet to understand what is offensive about anyone blowing their nose. It is a great alternative to picking it.

 

[DisneyFan32WI]

So would you rather see snot running out of someones nose, or listen to them coughing due to sinus drainage. I have yet to understand what is offensive about anyone blowing their nose. It is a great alternative to picking it.

This is when you should excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

 

[Floridaman999]

So would you rather see snot running out of someones nose, or listen to them coughing due to sinus drainage. I have yet to understand what is offensive about anyone blowing their nose. It is a great alternative to picking it.

I'd hope they had the decency to leave the table and go take care of the issue in the restroom. Not sure why it's a big problem to do that?

 

[goofyernmost]

This is when you should excuse yourself and go to the restroom.

I'd hope they had the decency to leave the table and go take care of the issue in the restroom. Not sure why it's a big problem to do that?

That is just plain ridiculous, you sneeze in public, you cough in public so why is that so awful? It's not like you are wiping your butt in public. Just another foolish snobbish thing invented for no reason at all. It is a simple, function of the body, like breathing and eating. Anyone that would get offended by that, has some very real problems in my opinion.

 

[Floridaman999]

That is just plain ridiculous, you sneeze in public, you cough in public so why is that so awful? It's not like you are wiping your butt in public. Just another foolish snobbish thing invented for no reason at all. It is a simple, function of the body, like breathing and eating. Anyone that would get offended by that, has some very real problems in my opinion.

I guess I have some real problems then. Good thing we won't be eating together to confirm.

 

[declansdad]

I'd hope they had the decency to leave the table and go take care of the issue in the restroom. Not sure why it's a big problem to do that?

Why is a big issue to use a tissue at the table?

 

[Floridaman999]

Why is a big issue to use a tissue at the table?

For me it would be the sound and noise associated with someone blowing their nose. If someone was just wiping their nose I doubt it would bother me, but the sound of someone blowing mucus and snot out of their nose into a tissue at the dining table bothers me a bit.