Mother of the groom dress advice

That second dress is fire! It’s why beige shouldn’t always be vilified.

Also, thinking your mom looks amazing, while 10 years older is ok. She did look beautiful. She was happy. MIL looked like - well, the way she looks.

:rotfl2:
 
I do like rose gold. One of the dresses I'm looking at on line is described as "topaz" but appears to be rose gold. So hard to tell on line.

Unfortunately liking a color and having it like you is not the same thing!
 
OMG! We have similar MILs. Mine wore white. She told me it was off white, but her suit dress was as white as mine. At the end of the reception, she shrugged and said, "I guess we have to share him now." lol

Mine too--her dress was an identical shade of ivory as mine. You can see how it was the same color in all the pictures. *sigh* In fairness, I did ask her if she could please choose anything except navy blue (my mother's dress) because my mom felt strongly about not having the same color as the mother of the groom, so I guess she took me at my word! I just assumed it was a known thing not to wear white at a wedding.
 


That second dress is fire! It’s why beige shouldn’t always be vilified.

Beige can be beautiful on the right skin tone. I like beige, I don't like alot of color but if I had to wear a dress that was entirely beige I'd look awful. There is no way I'd want to be in portraits of my child's wedding looking awful.

Also, thinking your mom looks amazing, while 10 years older is ok. She did look beautiful. She was happy. MIL looked like - well, the way she looks.

At least she didn't look awful :rotfl:
 
Quite the opposite. I’d bet it was an aggressive move that had been planned for quite some time. Her NOT shopping for a dress in the preceding weeks/months allowed her to show everybody just how little she cared about the wedding, how unimportant the bride and groom were to her. Just grabbing “whatever” from the closet the day of served two purposes. 1) Reinforcing how insignificant the whole thing was to her. 2) It got her the attention she wanted. She showed up in a dress that didn’t fit the color scheme (because no one’s going to tell her what to do), stood out from everyone else (a way to thumb her nose at the happy couple both on the day of and in perpetuity in the pictures), and because it was black, like one would wear to a funeral, it made clear how she felt about this wedding to everyone in attendance. I’d bet good money that black dress in her closet had been picked out in her mind from the very beginning.

Am I right, @MaryLovesPoohBear?
Pretty much.

I couldn't say now, because I haven't seen her in years, but it was always obvious what she thought about me.
 
Luck was on our side when my mother became a MOB (no sons); she owned a special occasion fabric store and had a plethora of reputable seamstresses and dressmakers to work with. She and "Auntie" (good friend not related by blood) picked the colours and fabrics for the entire wedding party including the MOG and presented them to elder sister for her approval. The MOG lived in another country where my mother's reputation preceded her and was happy to allow the dress design, making, and colour to be decided by the MOB to be. I think she changed one aspect of the design and that was it. In fact years later she was buried in that dress.
That was the only wedding my mother was able to plan as I was already married and had opted for a civil service as did my younger sister.
 


Try "Rent the Runway". They actually send you two dresses in consecutive sizes, just so one fits.
My adult dd uses them, except her dresses aren’t for weddings. She’s had very good luck with them.
 
My adult dd uses them, except her dresses aren’t for weddings. She’s had very good luck with them.

My DD is at an age where she goes to lots of weddings and events ... doesn't want to repeat dresses, especially if like crowds .... and she doesn't have the budget to buy a bunch so she also rents the formal dresses for those.
 
I do like rose gold. One of the dresses I'm looking at on line is described as "topaz" but appears to be rose gold. So hard to tell on line.

Unfortunately liking a color and having it like you is not the same thing!
For sure. Those tones are so pretty on others but they'd look hideous on me. :scared:
 
When my eldest dd got married a few years ago, she and dsil had their plans for overall color scheme and how they wanted their wedding to look. It was spring and they wanted a muted color pallet with softer colors, blush, taupe, light gold accents,

Truvy: What are your colors, Shelby?

Shelby: My colors are "blush" and "bashful."

M'Lynn: Her colors are "pink" and pink."

Shelby: My colors are "blush" and "bashful" Mama!

M'Lynn: How precious is this weddin' gonna get, I ask you? (Source:imdb.com)
 
Threads like this kind of depress me. I have one son. Threads like this really make me dread him getting married. I'm great with DH & his future wife planning their wedding & going along with their wishes. Tell me what you want & we'll pay & show up. I don't need to be involved with the planning, unless she wants me to be. That said, it makes me sad that the MOG appears to be a second class citizen compared to the MOB, by many posting here. When DH & I got married, I never felt my mother was more important than his, even though my MIL isn't an easy person to get along with. It was also his wedding. His mother was as important as mine.
 
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DS is getting married in May. Bridesmaids are wearing a light pink. Future DILs mother is deceased. When I asked FDIL what color, she said whatever color I want. Now I have to find a dress that doesn’t look like I’m trying to look too young or like a great grandmother. But at least I can wear whatever color I choose. I’m thinking something that will coordinate with bridesmaids but not be matchy matchy.
Deeper pink....like a magenta color.
 
Threads like this kind of depress me. I have one son. Threads like this really make me dread him getting married. I'm great with DH & his future wife planning their wedding & going along with their wishes. Tell me what you want & we'll pay & show up. I don't need to be involved with the planning, unless she wants me to be. That said, it makes me sad that the MOG appears to be a second class citizen compared to the MOB, by many posting here. When DH & I got married, I never felt my mother was more important than his, even though my MIL isn't an easy person to get along with. It was also his wedding & his mother was as important as mine.

I hope your experience is different. My daughter just got married two weeks ago and I can tell you that in ALL of our minds, the wedding planning was a 'family affair. Even though my husband and I covered most of the large expenses, we included the groom's parents in a lot of decisions. We each played to our strengths and created a great day for our children.

As for the dresses, my daughter the bride was so easygoing on this. Her only request was that they not be white. She planned a shopping day for the three of us, and the MOG found her dress first. It was beautiful and perfect and she loved it. Took me a little longer, but the point here is that the bride allowed us to find the dress (and color) that made us each feel beautiful and special.
 
Sheesh! So much drama and power plays involved in many weddings.
Glad I missed it....;).
 
Mine too--her dress was an identical shade of ivory as mine. You can see how it was the same color in all the pictures. *sigh* In fairness, I did ask her if she could please choose anything except navy blue (my mother's dress) because my mom felt strongly about not having the same color as the mother of the groom, so I guess she took me at my word! I just assumed it was a known thing not to wear white at a wedding.
I think my MIL thought it was her wedding and that's why she wore white. She was divorced and we were not allowed to invite FIL. She had to be "represented" by one of her brothers. He's in all of our family wedding photos. It's weird because she was one of 9 siblings and only this brother and my DH's godfather was in the pictures. Everyone who didn't know him asked if he was my FIL.

I'm just glad I can laugh about it now and we get along. I take food to her now when I make a lot and I stop by to visit her. That would never have happened early on in our marriage.
 
Threads like this kind of depress me. I have one son. Threads like this really make me dread him getting married. I'm great with DH & his future wife planning their wedding & going along with their wishes. Tell me what you want & we'll pay & show up. I don't need to be involved with the planning, unless she wants me to be. That said, it makes me sad that the MOG appears to be a second class citizen compared to the MOB, by many posting here. When DH & I got married, I never felt my mother was more important than his, even though my MIL isn't an easy person to get along with. It was also his wedding & his mother was as important as mine.

I am the mom of two daughters, no sons. I absolutely don't feel that way whatsoever. I did everything I could to minimize being the bride at my own wedding, I sure as heck would not relish being in the spotlight at anyone else's. I'm hopeful my daughters have inherited my serious lack of interest in the whole wedding hoopla -- and hopeful their prospective grooms and families will be quite content keeping things intimate and simple as well.
 
I may have found a dress option. It is taupe lace, but with a black underlay. It almost looks mauve, so the pink tones work well for me. It was a bit snug/short, so I ordered it in a W size and am hoping for good results. Crossing my fingers!
 

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