We had some friends who did this. Never bothered me, but it was over 30 years ago. They were pretty predictable, Friday night. They'd get a baby sitter, go out to dinner then stop by. We had to make sure we had M & M's in the candy dish. At the time my wife and I both worked graveyard shift, so we would sleep until about 5 pm Friday and have the weekend off. We'd go minature golfing, or bowling or to a movie with these folks on the spur of the momment.
Very common when I was a kid in the early to mid-1960's. My parents friends would drop by unannounced. My dad would have to scurry to put his pants on because he was relaxing in his boxes. Of course my parents did the same thing.
One friend used to open the garage door, go through the garage, tie his dog up in the backyard, then knock on back sliding glass door.
Certainly not a good idea now with a pandemic.
I'm not adverse to leaving someone standing on the door step, as I grab my dish cloth or laundry basket, and say "Sorry, I'm just so busy today, maybe you could call ahead next time?" And shutting the door.It makes me CRAZY to have unannounced visitors. I know some probably welcome a drop in, but I can't stand it. My sister in law is particularly prone to doing this and it is making me bonkers. I've been married to her brother 23 years, but we have never lived in the same state until recently.
It annoys me that I have to either deal with it or awkwardly say, please call or text to give me a heads up. Shouldn't it just be common courtesy? Ok, rant over.
I've told this story before. Just do what my previous supervisor did.This irks me too. I need advanced notice, or else I have to scramble to get my vampire mask and cape on when the missionaries come knocking.
My wifes family did this for years. One time we were on a day trip and gone all day. Early evening (about 7 PM)we got home to find her parents parked in our driveway. They lived 135 miles away from us. They said they just stopped a few minutes before we got home. Our neighbor told us they had been sitting in our driveway since 10 AM.
I totally get it. I grew up in a very remote farm community; neighbours were at least 2 miles (a half-section) apart. Everybody knew everybody, including their vehicles and it was actually considered bad manners to drive by without stopping. Yes, a vehicle going by was unusual enough to attract attention and folks would wonder where someone was off to with such urgency that they didn't stop. It wasn't uncommon to have two or three different drop in guests for coffee and cookies per day.Growing up it was normal to just drop in. We lived in the city (and were poor) so most of us didn’t have phone or cars. Stopping by someone’s house to chat or just ask a question was normal.
Now I don’t like it. But no one does it. We get a text or call. I’m also one of those that is braless at home. So please call first.
I totally get it. I grew up in a very remote farm community; neighbours were at least 2 miles (a half-section) apart. Everybody knew everybody, including their vehicles and it was actually considered bad manners to drive by without stopping. Yes, a vehicle going by was unusual enough to attract attention and folks would wonder where someone was off to with such urgency that they didn't stop. It wasn't uncommon to have two or three different drop in guests for coffee and cookies per day.
The older I got, the more I disliked it because I dreamed of living like a "city person" (which meant civilized to an adolescent farm kid). Nice to know kids in town suffered the same fate.