Thank you so much for sharing your experience @Debbie Jean I will definitely keep a close eye on her and if it seems to persist, get her checked out!
I just downloaded the AudioBook from Amazon. Thank you for the suggestion!I have found the book - how to hug a porcupine - so enlightening on tweens and made me feel so much better about my mood my kid. I kid you not he LOST IT over a suggestion one morning to carry a project in a grocery bag. It’s like demons came out
It's mostly happening at night but I'm also noticing a lot more attitude with little things like cleaning her room. When made to do that chore she becomes quite upset and stomps around. This past weekend she didn't want to do it, but was told that it's her responsibility, I came out to a note in the kitchen to "leave me alone, you hurt my feelings when you made me clean my room, I don't want to talk to anyone". That along with the crying at night time really makes me believe it's hormonal. I have a few things I want to try tonight, I don't want to get angry with her. That's only going to make things worse. Especially with not knowing what is actually causing all of this. It just caught me so off guard. It's not like her at all.
Well last night was 100% better. I made a plan during the day of things we were going to change. I did push her bedtime back to 9pm. I stopped any kind of electronics (phone/tablet/tv) at 8:00. We laid in her bed and read Peter Pan and once it was over I could see her getting anxious about me leaving. She made me check under the bed (haven't done that since she was a toddler!), she requested a bed full of stuffed animals and I told her I'd check on her in 5 minutes just to ease her mind. After 5 minutes I checked on her and she was still a little nervous about staying in there alone. So I told her I was going to clean the kitchen and then check on her again. When I went back in the eyes were rolling back and she told me she was ready to go to sleep. After that, not a peep from her!
I did put the oil diffuser in her room with lavender oil and added a salt lamp for a little light. Spent a little more one on one time with her in the evening. I'm hoping if we keep this up it will continually get better. Thank you all for the suggestions!
That’s awesome.Well last night was 100% better. I made a plan during the day of things we were going to change. I did push her bedtime back to 9pm. I stopped any kind of electronics (phone/tablet/tv) at 8:00. We laid in her bed and read Peter Pan and once it was over I could see her getting anxious about me leaving. She made me check under the bed (haven't done that since she was a toddler!), she requested a bed full of stuffed animals and I told her I'd check on her in 5 minutes just to ease her mind. After 5 minutes I checked on her and she was still a little nervous about staying in there alone. So I told her I was going to clean the kitchen and then check on her again. When I went back in the eyes were rolling back and she told me she was ready to go to sleep. After that, not a peep from her!
I did put the oil diffuser in her room with lavender oil and added a salt lamp for a little light. Spent a little more one on one time with her in the evening. I'm hoping if we keep this up it will continually get better. Thank you all for the suggestions!
I’m so glad you did this & didn’t listen to some of the ridiculous recommendations on this board to just punish her!Well ever since it started becoming an issue I've been trying to do more one on one time talking. Last night I FINALLY got something out of her. There's a boy that sits beside her in class that says inappropriate things. A lot. She gave me one example but said there are more.
I spoke to the teacher this morning while my daughter was outside the class and then an administrator had seen my daughter was upset so I spoke with her as well.
I'm glad she felt comfortable enough to open up to me. Now to figure out how to deal with all of it!
Well ever since it started becoming an issue I've been trying to do more one on one time talking. Last night I FINALLY got something out of her. There's a boy that sits beside her in class that says inappropriate things. A lot. She gave me one example but said there are more.
I spoke to the teacher this morning while my daughter was outside the class and then an administrator had seen my daughter was upset so I spoke with her as well.
I'm glad she felt comfortable enough to open up to me. Now to figure out how to deal with all of it!
This is exactly how my son is. He tells me everything, even things I don’t want to know! But sometimes when it’s something he’s shy about discussing his anxiety manifests in similar ways.Well ever since it started becoming an issue I've been trying to do more one on one time talking. Last night I FINALLY got something out of her. There's a boy that sits beside her in class that says inappropriate things. A lot. She gave me one example but said there are more.
I spoke to the teacher this morning while my daughter was outside the class and then an administrator had seen my daughter was upset so I spoke with her as well.
I'm glad she felt comfortable enough to open up to me. Now to figure out how to deal with all of it!