morgan98
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- May 29, 2010
We do not have children by choice. This is our second marriage. I am 49 and we decided this for sure at least 10 years ag (my husband is older than I am). I went through a rather nasty divorce during the time in my life when I thought I would have children. However, to be completely honest, I was never 100% sold on having kids. I was more of a wait and see kind of person about having kids.
While I have not ever really been rudely questioned or pushed on the subject, it is sometimes awkward. Many people assume you have children (especially when you say you are married) and when you answer you don't have kids, sometimes there is a strained silence for a moment. However, I just move along.
Sometimes, I do worry about myself when I get older, especially since my husband is older than I am. But, it is really too soon to start obsessing about that. As a matter of fact, I am about at the point of contemplating an early retirement of sorts, which would never have been possible if I had children and the associated costs and responsibilities.
It is not selfish to not have children. I also find it insulting when people think that you don't have kids because you would somehow be an unfit parent. There are plenty of people bringing children into bad situations and raising kids who do not become productive members of society. However, it is not appropriate to call anyone out on that..lol!
While I have not ever really been rudely questioned or pushed on the subject, it is sometimes awkward. Many people assume you have children (especially when you say you are married) and when you answer you don't have kids, sometimes there is a strained silence for a moment. However, I just move along.
Sometimes, I do worry about myself when I get older, especially since my husband is older than I am. But, it is really too soon to start obsessing about that. As a matter of fact, I am about at the point of contemplating an early retirement of sorts, which would never have been possible if I had children and the associated costs and responsibilities.
It is not selfish to not have children. I also find it insulting when people think that you don't have kids because you would somehow be an unfit parent. There are plenty of people bringing children into bad situations and raising kids who do not become productive members of society. However, it is not appropriate to call anyone out on that..lol!