Update on Page 2: How Would You Announce a Threatened Pregnancy?

PlainJane

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So, this is definitely the most personal and rawest thing I've ever discussed in my many years of being on this board. I'm in my first trimester. I found out today that I have a subchorionic hematoma. The baby is well, but unfortunately this condition can lead to miscarriage. It sometimes resolves in the first trimester and it can also last the entire pregnancy.

Some people already know we are pregnant. This is our second baby and I popped early, beyond that I have raging morning sickness and almost constantly wear sea bands (can't wear long sleeves in warm weather), I also can't be very active ("you can't come to the park, why not?"), and I really don't want to hide the pregnancy even if I could.

This leaves me wondering how on earth do you tell people you're expecting, but that you're also praying to God that the baby sticks? I've just never seen a pregnancy announcement like that.
 
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I'm very sorry for the news you received, prayers and good thoughts for you.

I wouldn't announce anything, just let people find out naturally that you are pregnant and share the details of your condition with who you wish too. You don't need to explain to everyone, or anyone.
 


This is all about you, Momma. No one is owed an explanation. Friends, family, work...none of them deserve to know more than you feel comfortable telling. It is a very personal thing. There will be many different opinions on how to handle it, but there is no "right way" beyond what you feel is best. And having a default response to people who ask you in person might help, such as, "I will make an announcement when I am ready" or "There are some possible complications I do/don't want to discuss right now."

Sending you internet hugs and many good thoughts.
 
So, this is definitely the most personal and rawest thing I've ever discussed in my many years of being on this board. I'm in my first trimester. I found out today that I have a subchorionic hematoma. The baby is well, but unfortunately this condition can lead to miscarriage. It sometimes resolves in the first trimester and it can also last the entire pregnancy.

Some people already know we are pregnant. This is our second baby and I popped early, beyond that I have raging morning sickness and almost constantly wear sea bands (can't wear long sleeves in warm weather), I also can't be very active ("you can't come to the park, why not?"), and I really don't want to hide the pregnancy even if I could.

This leaves me wondering how on earth do you tell people you're expecting, but that you're also praying to God that the baby sticks? I've just never seen a pregnancy announcement like that.

I also had this with my son who is now 2 years old. They didnt find it until 15 weeks and said that it was a risk but being in my second trimester they were not as concerned as if it was my first. It was scary to hear all that. Everything went fine thank God and I hope you have the same outcome
 
I don’t know your religious background but St Gerard Magella is the patron saint of difficult pregnancies. I know several families who invoked his prayers in conceiving and having safe deliveries. Just Offering some suggestion of what has brought myself and some friends comfort Best thoughts and prayers.
 
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The only person I tell I’m pregnant in the first trimester is DH, until I hit 12 weeks I consider it a maybe baby. A close friend of mine had what you have, everything worked out fine. Good luck! Actually I think I told earlier with my 4th because it was twins and I really started showing, but regretted it after learning about disappearing twin syndrome, but it worked out okay.
 
I just went through this. (The threatened pregnancy, not the subchorionic hematoma.) I more or less treated it as I did my previous, normal pregnancy. I didn’t make any big announcements to extended family or friends, with the intention of waiting until I was further along into the second trimester and had a better idea of how things were going to go, but that’s how long I would’ve waited in any case. I individually told the people closest to me (and the DIS :laughing:) as I normally would, just with the additional info about it being at risk. When things didn’t work out, I didn’t have to go back and “undo” my announcement because the few people who knew were the ones close enough to be following along with my progress every step of the way.

Good luck! I think subchorionic hematomas are fairly common.
 
I think it’s up to you what and when you tell people. You don’t owe anyone any kind of explanation and at the very least you can tell them when you’re out of the woods.
 
I had the same thing with my first pregnancy and my OB never made it sound like something that could end the pregnancy, it was just something that would resolve on its own. I did need to get a RHOgam shot because I was RH-. If your doctor told you that you have a big chance of a loss then I may keep the pregnancy on the down low, or you can just announce it and be positive and happy and hope for the best. Your chances of maintaining the pregnancy should be better than not. Congratulations!
 
I had a miscarriage before my 3rd son. I waited until I was about 14 weeks to announce it publicly. Close friends and family knew by 10 weeks. I agree with everyone. You do not need to make an announcement unless you want to. Praying for healthy pregnancy. :hug:
 
So, this is definitely the most personal and rawest thing I've ever discussed in my many years of being on this board. I'm in my first trimester. I found out today that I have a subchorionic hematoma. The baby is well, but unfortunately this condition can lead to miscarriage. It sometimes resolves in the first trimester and it can also last the entire pregnancy.

Some people already know we are pregnant. This is our second baby and I popped early, beyond that I have raging morning sickness and almost constantly wear sea bands (can't wear long sleeves in warm weather), I also can't be very active ("you can't come to the park, why not?"), and I really don't want to hide the pregnancy even if I could.

This leaves me wondering how on earth do you tell people you're expecting, but that you're also praying to God that the baby sticks? I've just never seen a pregnancy announcement like that.
I would think those people who you want to know (family, close friends)probably would already know the issues. Other than that, if someone were to ask, I'd just say "yes, I'm pregnant". If they pursue further discussion, you can just say you don't care to discuss specifics and move the conversation elsewhere.
 
I had a very difficult pregnancy with my first son, we were told he had a 10% chance of living to birth. He is thankfully completely normal, but we waited until I was almost 7 months pregnant (and we knew all was going to be well) before telling anyone. I think folks just thought I was gaining a lot of weight!
 
I don’t know your religious background but St Gerard Magella is the patron saint of difficult pregnancies. I know several families who invoked his prayers in conceiving and having safe deliveries. Just Offering some suggestion of what has brought myself and some friends comfort Best thoughts and prayers.
I wish I had know about this. Excellent information. I had this same condition and my daughter is now 15. Hang in there. I found sharing with those close to me provided much needed support and actually lowered my stress. Everyone is different though. You need only share what makes you comfortable.
 
You don’t have to tell others if you don’t want to. I waited till I was 12-14 weeks with my first because I had a prior miscarriage and was scared that the same thing was going to happen. That included my parents.
 
Just whatever you are comfortable with. It’s your body and you get to make the decisions that are right for you. I always told people about my pregnancies right away. I was excited, wanted to share the news, and really coouldn’t keep it a secret. If I’d miscarried, I didn’t want to suffer in private. That’s not who I am. Knowing that I would have had the support of those around me, was more comfort to me than the “social norm” of the silent grief.
 
Congratulations on your pregnancy! I’m not an OB, and don’t know the size or severity of your subchorreonic hematoma—but I do know that they are fairly common and I’ve never heard them talked about in terms of a “threatened pregnancy.”

I had one with my 3rd pregnancy. My OB was surprised it wasn’t causing me to bleed. I told people about the pregnancy as I did with my previous ones—a bit earlier in fact. I saw no need to worry anyone (and I myself wasn’t really worried either) about the hematoma thing so I didn’t mention it. I did tell a few family members about it after my 20 week scan when it had resolved.

Hang in there and try not to worry. These are really common.
 

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