Question about menopause

BaymaxFan78 · May 12, 2019

Question for you ladies!!

Look, I'm a younger dude and I sort of know what happens during menopause but does it cause really bad mood swings? Because my mom is late 40s and she has been going acting differently for a while now. her dad passed away last year and its really been messing up the whole family and that seems to been when this started. She is her normal sweet self at most times but whenever she gets in an argument with my dad she gets REALLY mad. An example is earlier they were arguing about how to make meatloaf (really stupid, I know) and this was at a restaurant. she got mad and made a scene which she never does. they have been ignoring each other for the passed hour. Does anyone know if this could be caused by that?

EDIT: She also always feels bad after these arguments happen.

TikiBabe · May 12, 2019

IDK that it's menopause but effects of dealing with her dad's passing that she may need counseling/meds for. I hope everything works out.

happily single · May 12, 2019

Not a medical,professional, but I just (within the past month) took a course geared towards menopause. A drop in Estrogen, which happens during menopause can definitely cause the mood swings and irritation. I would really encourage her to see her doctor just to be sure it’s not something else

Lehuaann · May 12, 2019

BaymaxFan78 said:
she has been going acting differently for a while now. her dad passed away last year and its really been messing up the whole family and that seems to been when this started.

I’m not sure if the passing was sudden, but PTSD causes anger and irritability. Perhaps you can talk to mom about your concerns, so she can get help. You wouldn’t want her blood pressure to cause more issues. And maybe talk to dad about being patient...

disneychrista · May 12, 2019

YES, mode swings can happen.

mom2rtk · May 12, 2019

I'd be careful assuming or suggesting that it's hormones. It could be. Or it could be depression after her dad's passing. It could be a mid-life crisis. It could be marital issues with your dad. It's not always as simple as blaming menopause.

Christine · May 13, 2019

I could be party due to menopause, but I'd say there are probably some other things at play and her hormonal changes are probably not helping. Generally if it's purely menopause driven, you can't cope with *anyone*, not just one person. This seems to be focused on your dad.

Snowflakey · May 13, 2019

Well, I'm 51 and have gone through menopause and never did I have any mood swings. I want to think there is something else going one. Could be the passing of her father, could be the relationship with your father. You wouldn't know if something was going on with them since you are the son.

My kids are able to talk to me about anything and they do! Open up and let Mom know you are concerned about her sudden bursts and what can you do to help her out. Something is going on with poor Mom - be there to support her. Best of luck!!

John VN · May 13, 2019

Snowflakey said:
Well, I'm 51 and have gone through menopause and never did I have any mood swings. I want to think there is something else going.......................... Best of luck!!

Believe it "or not" a thyroid issue can be a root cause for swings as can be soooo many other physical and psychological issues. IMO, a visit to a medical professional might be a good first step.

BTW, even us men can have thyroid issues. NOT PLEASANT!!!

Good LUCK

hereyago · May 13, 2019

BaymaxFan78 said:
Question for you ladies!!

She is her normal sweet self at most times but whenever she gets in an argument with my dad she gets REALLY mad. An example is earlier they were arguing about how to make meatloaf (really stupid, I know) and this was at a restaurant. she got mad and made a scene which she never does. they have been ignoring each other for the passed hour. Does anyone know if this could be caused by that?

EDIT: She also always feels bad after these arguments happen.

Maybe there is some issue between your mom and dad that you aren't privy to that sets her off. Hormones or lack of don't set people off with just certain people.

PollyannaMom · May 13, 2019

It very well could be hormonal...but many times, suggesting to a woman that something is hormonal makes the reaction worse, not better :duck:

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If it started when her dad died, though, I think that may be a safer "in" for you to start a conversation. - Maybe you can mention that you've seen her really struggling with emotions since then, and you'd worry less if she ran it by her doctor?

And I am in no way trained in psychology, so take this for the guess it is, but it might be possible that whatever she's feeling is coming out with your dad because she's comparing them in some way - even worrying that they same thing will happen to him.

On a more practical note, I do feel like perimenopause (that's the earlier part of that whole transition period) sort of sapped my patience. I was reluctant to try hormonal therapy, so my doctor suggested increasing my calcium, and I really do feel like it helped!

SeeDisney · May 13, 2019

sad but it does sound like mood swings and it's hormonal based due to the hormone fluctuation of menopause

North of Mouse · May 13, 2019

BaymaxFan78 said:
Question for you ladies!!

Look, I'm a younger dude and I sort of know what happens during menopause but does it cause really bad mood swings? Because my mom is late 40s and she has been going acting differently for a while now. her dad passed away last year and its really been messing up the whole family and that seems to been when this started. She is her normal sweet self at most times but whenever she gets in an argument with my dad she gets REALLY mad. An example is earlier they were arguing about how to make meatloaf (really stupid, I know) and this was at a restaurant. she got mad and made a scene which she never does. they have been ignoring each other for the passed hour. Does anyone know if this could be caused by that?

EDIT: She also always feels bad after these arguments happen.

Sorry, have never heard of that type of behavior and to that degree, and also she seems relatively young for menopause (not to say it can't/won't begin that early). Seems it would be wise to have a medical checkup to rule out other causes. I could get irritated easily at times, but I never took it out on others.

Summer2018 · May 13, 2019

BaymaxFan78 said:
Question for you ladies!!

Look, I'm a younger dude and I sort of know what happens during menopause but does it cause really bad mood swings? Because my mom is late 40s and she has been going acting differently for a while now. her dad passed away last year and its really been messing up the whole family and that seems to been when this started. She is her normal sweet self at most times but whenever she gets in an argument with my dad she gets REALLY mad. An example is earlier they were arguing about how to make meatloaf (really stupid, I know) and this was at a restaurant. she got mad and made a scene which she never does. they have been ignoring each other for the passed hour. Does anyone know if this could be caused by that?

EDIT: She also always feels bad after these arguments happen.

Absolutely. Google menopause and you can read about the symptoms. It’s rough especially if you are going through it without hormones like I did.

Grief affects people differently. I have no doubt that a combination of grief and menopause has caused this.

Try to be sensitive and supportive toward her. Neither lasts forever.

J'aime Paris · May 13, 2019

Wondering why a "young dude" would just assume its related to menopause? Have any other clues to support that theory?

Maybe your dad is just being a jerk.....

anniemae · May 13, 2019

Not sure what is going on with your mom, but yes mood swings are a major symptom of menopause.

Aurora79 · May 13, 2019

I short, yes, it absolutely could be menopause or even the later stages of pre-menopause. Stress can make the hormonal changes worse.

Pea-n-Me · May 13, 2019

BaymaxFan78 said:
Question for you ladies!!

Look, I'm a younger dude and I sort of know what happens during menopause but does it cause really bad mood swings? Because my mom is late 40s and she has been going acting differently for a while now. her dad passed away last year and its really been messing up the whole family and that seems to been when this started. She is her normal sweet self at most times but whenever she gets in an argument with my dad she gets REALLY mad. An example is earlier they were arguing about how to make meatloaf (really stupid, I know) and this was at a restaurant. she got mad and made a scene which she never does. they have been ignoring each other for the passed hour. Does anyone know if this could be caused by that?

EDIT: She also always feels bad after these arguments happen.

Depression can cause irritability, often with people closest to us.

She is also at the age of fluctuating hormones, too, but it may not be actual menopause.

Women can be in peri-menopause for a long time and it can cause some funky symptoms.

It's hard to get straight answers sometimes, though, even from medical professionals.

You might have a talk with your Mom at a good time, to express your concerns to her. This may be enough to get her to seek some help. Approach it from an angle of caring.

There is a long thread here on peri-menopause that was pretty good. There were some things I figured out about myself from reading it, including why I was having insomnia and crazy dreams, etc. When you don't sleep right, you can be in a bad mood and the littlest things can set you off. Maybe check that out and send it to your Mom.

PollyannaMom · May 14, 2019

Pea-n-Me said:
There is a long thread here on peri-menopause that was pretty good. There were some things I figured out about myself from reading it, including why I was having insomnia and crazy dreams, etc. When you don't sleep right, you can be in a bad mood and the littlest things can set you off. Maybe check that out and send it to your Mom.

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