With great sadness, we will be canceling our trip scheduled to arrive this Friday, hopefully we will make our first trip to Aulani soon once things get back to life as normal.
My most memorable time with my father is when he took just me to Disneyland when I was in kindergarten (more special now that I know how much he hates crowds, lines, etc.). I'd do it if you can.
My son is very sensitive and scared of so many things, but Star Tours is his favorite and hasn't had any issues with it from when he first rode it at 5 years old. Big Star Wars fan though, so ymmv