I could see the mom wanting to dote on her only child of 9 years before she has to divide up her attention. Maybe like a last hoorah similar to people’s idea of baby moon (which I never did, either. Unless you count my anniversary trip when I happened to be expecting my second).
I think this big sister shower is in honor of the big sister. Guests would bring gifts for the 9 year old as she is the focus. Like it was a birthday party.
I could see it too, but in this case, I’d do something special for the daughter before the birth. Take her on a special outing, girls weekend, etc. Don’t involve other people. Having a fancy party and expecting gifts is too indulgent and sends the wrong message, IMO.
Oh, that's another thought. - I wonder if the baby is due right around the oldest's birthday? Mom might have been worried about putting on a big party right then (either because it might get canceled at the last minute or just because it would be difficult for her at that point). Maybe this is about a bigger party now and a smaller one then?
Oh my, I can't stop laughing!If I attend, will I need to cover my plate?
If I attend, will I need to cover my plate?
On the up side, it's probably just a paper plate. How bad could it be?And yes by all means, cover your plate. It’s tacky not to.
I actually do know the answer to this one and no, the older child’s birthday won’t come around until several months after the baby’s arrival.Oh, that's another thought. - I wonder if the baby is due right around the oldest's birthday? Mom might have been worried about putting on a big party right then (either because it might get canceled at the last minute or just because it would be difficult for her at that point). Maybe this is about a bigger party now and a smaller one then?
no real baby was involved but one of the BEST showers ever that i was involved in was for a 'fur baby'. it was a complete surprise for an older co-worker who for DECADES graciously attended and gave a gift at every freaking wedding/baby shower that was held for anyone else in the office (and there were LOTS-on average at least 1-2 a month). people would always privately remark how kind it was of her and how since she had no kids of her own we never got the opportunity to reciprocate UNTIL she made mention that she and her elderly husband were adopting a new cat (theirs had passed several months earlier) so that created a reason for us to go all out. word spread in secret so she was in tears when she walked into the break room at lunch on the monday following the adoption to find it filled with co-workers, decorations, food and enough cat toys to last all 7 lives for that new cat.
BEST SHOWER EVER
If it’s on the east coast, you’d be surprised.On the up side, it's probably just a paper plate. How bad could it be?
Oh, that's another thought. - I wonder if the baby is due right around the oldest's birthday? Mom might have been worried about putting on a big party right then (either because it might get canceled at the last minute or just because it would be difficult for her at that point). Maybe this is about a bigger party now and a smaller one then?
This is me doing my small part to inject life into the Community Board.
I have a Facebook friend who is expecting her second child. Today, she posted pictures from the “Big Sister Baby Shower” that was held to celebrate the 9 1/2 year old daughter’s impending big sisterhood. A small venue was rented, there was a theme, decorations, centerpieces, two buffet tables of catered food, and a candy bar. There looked to be seating for about twenty, and there was a big pile of gifts against one wall. I have no idea what kind of gifts people brought to this event, though I’m sure I’ll have more information once this friend posts the rest of the pictures. She’s currently waiting to get them from the photographer. (In fairness, her sister is a photographer, so I assume this is who she was referring to in her post.) The big-sister-to-be went this morning to have her hair and nails done.
It looked like a nice event — Perhaps not “Pinterest-worthy,” but it definitely had all the trappings of a full blown baby shower. This is the first time I’ve heard of such a thing and I’ll be honest, my initial reaction is to think this is ridiculous. I understand taking efforts to make sure older siblings feel loved and included through this kind of family transition, especially if the older sibling is still very young themselves. I would think involving them in the planning and preparations and maybe giving them a special gift from mom and dad would be sufficient. But throwing them their own shower? And for a child at this age who, presumably, should be able to understand and handle this transition relatively well? It seems over the top to me.
Thoughts? Has anyone heard of this, done this, been invited to one?