disney junky
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- Joined
- Dec 16, 2004
I find that we did and still do, kids grown with grandkids....
Nope, quite a bit less actually now that they’re adults. It’s because we all live quite far apart and can’t be a part of each other’s daily lives. We also have our own commitments and priorities - my own parents were willing and able to drop everything if one of their kids (or even grandkids) needed them.I find that we did and still do, kids grown with grandkids....
I find that we did and still do, kids grown with grandkids....
Not that any harm ever came of it, but by the time I was 12, I was cooking dinner, watching my siblings, doing household laundry, making lunches, taking my siblings to the park, etc. We stayed home by ourselves all summer long. I cannot ever remember a time where my parents helped me study or look at my school work, maybe every so often mom would proof read an essay or typing assignment, but that was the extent of the involvement.
I think we're like most people, do the best we're able that we know to do and hope for the best.
How did you not ever buy anything? I had never done laundry, done any cleaning except vacuuming and dusting (which I got paid for), had never grocery shopped, but I went plenty of places with my friends, mall, restaurants, away for the weekend...No. My mom did everything for us - when I left home to go to college I had never cooked a meal, done a load of laundry, picked up after myself, cleaned ANYTHING at all. I didn't now how to budget,grocery shop, had never really gone into a store and bought anything, etc. It was a STEEP learning curve, because I didn't go back home after that first year and lived on my own. I had to figure it all out on my own.
We have gone the opposite direction, and at 12 my son can do all of the above. He and his brother go to the store for me every weekend with a list and make purchases. He can clean his room, cook a meal, do laundry, etc.
How did you not ever buy anything? I had never done laundry, done any cleaning except vacuuming and dusting (which I got paid for), had never grocery shopped, but I went plenty of places with my friends, mall, restaurants, away for the weekend...
My parents did a lot for me, I do find myself driving my kids places where I used to walk. My college kids do most things on their own, applications, tuition payment, classes, books - I do know ds19 needs to pick another class, just because he’s home and keeps mentioning it. Dd21 just finished up her undergrad and will be starting her masters, ds asked me if she minored in anything, I have no idea (accounting major).