We gift our children and their spouses, grandchild and one great nephew. If we are celebrating with my brother and sister in law we will exchange with them-usually bottles of wine, cheese or something a long those lines. Since they live 6 hours away that's not an every year occurance. I will take a small hostess gift if going to one of our daughter in laws families for a holiday meal. We travel or do some activity rather than purchase gifts for each other.