Girls trip, I'm booking my own room..not sharing.... now there's drama...

[LovesTimone]

Every year a group of my girl friends we plan a getaway for a girl long weekend. This year is Vegas, some shows, gambling, spa time, shopping and plenty of adult beverages... woo hoo...

So we got together for lunch to discuss what our options are, and where we want to stay, flights, and shows we might try to see.

So during the conversations, I reminded everyone that I wasn't 100% sure I would be able to go, but it wouldn't matter as I was booking my own room, and flight. So it didn't mess with anyone else plans. We are building a house, and our youngest daughter is having another baby and lives out of state... so I have a lot going on...

A few years ago I started doing this on our girls trips, just booking my own room, and I love it. So this is not the 1st time I have planned to do this. I am the type of person when I want to go to bed, I'm going to go to bed, I hate sharing a bathroom, and love having a king bed all to myself for a couple of nights. I am light sleeper, back and neck issue and sometimes I have to get up in the middle of the night and do stretch's, and really.... I just don't want to share... It's my time for me so if I am paying for it what's the dang big deal.

So after lunch we were all sitting around, catching up and chatting. One of the other ladies (lets call her K"), said it looks like we are sharing... I was like "what?" ... oh I said, I'm sorry, I'm not sure if I am even going, who told you we were sharing. So when she told me who told her (let use the initial "B"), I went straight to the source, and said why did you tell her that I am sharing with her, you know that I don't even know if I am going, yet... and if I do I am staying alone in the room that I am paying for. "B" said well to bad your going to have to share this trip, I said No! I'm not and that's that and ended the conversation.... I did speak to "K" and let her know that I was unsure if I was going and that it was not personal, and that did tell the everyone that my situation, she was fine with it and she completely understood.

There are a couple of other ladies that have since dropped out due to personal family stuff that they are not going to be able to go... So "K" has a room-mate.

The problem is that "B" is stirring the pot, basically running her mouth. She is a pot stirrer and loves drama.... I got a nasty email from "B" and I did not even respond back. Which only made her madder, that I won't play along. So apparently things have gotten out of hand with her trying to tell everyone who they are going to room and telling everyone what the trip itinerary is that she has decided on what's best for the group to point that several more ladies have dropped out. Normally we just get where we are going and decide then. This is the first time that "B" has been the point person for one of our trips...

After all this I just did a group email and bowed out and said I just can't make it right now.

So my question is would you be offended if someone in your group paid for their own room and did not want to share?

 

[Minnie824]

I would not at all be offended if someone had their own room. As you said, it is your money and time and it can be spent how you'd like. If there was an odd number of people left, then they'd have to figure out if they wanted an odd number to a room or if someone else wanted their own room but I would never make someone feel obligated to share. Sounds like a good choice to skip for now. Maybe spend a day at the spa on your own that weekend.

 

[sam_gordon]

Every year a group of my girl friends we plan a getaway for a girl long weekend. This year is Vegas, some shows, gambling, spa time, shopping and plenty of adult beverages... woo hoo...

So we got together for lunch to discuss what our options are, and where we want to stay, flights, and shows we might try to see.

So during the conversations, I reminded everyone that I wasn't 100% sure I would be able to go, but it wouldn't matter as I was booking my own room, and flight. So it didn't mess with anyone else plans. We are building a house, and our youngest daughter is having another baby and lives out of state... so I have a lot going on...

A few years ago I started doing this on our girls trips, just booking my own room, and I love it. So this is not the 1st time I have planned to do this. I am the type of person when I want to go to bed, I'm going to go to bed, I hate sharing a bathroom, and love having a king bed all to myself for a couple of nights. I am light sleeper, back and neck issue and sometimes I have to get up in the middle of the night and do stretch's, and really.... I just don't want to share... It's my time for me so if I am paying for it what's the dang big deal.

So after lunch we were all sitting around, catching up and chatting. One of the other ladies (lets call her K"), said it looks like we are sharing... I was like "what?" ... oh I said, I'm sorry, I'm not sure if I am even going, who told you we were sharing. So when she told me who told her (let use the initial "B"), I went straight to the source, and said why did you tell her that I am sharing with her, you know that I don't even know if I am going, yet... and if I do I am staying alone in the room that I am paying for. "B" said well to bad your going to have to share this trip, I said No! I'm not and that's that and ended the conversation.... I did speak to "K" and let her know that I was unsure if I was going and that it was not personal, and that did tell the everyone that my situation, she was fine with it and she completely understood.

There are a couple of other ladies that have since dropped out due to personal family stuff that they are not going to be able to go... So "K" has a room-mate.

The problem is that "B" is stirring the pot, basically running her mouth. She is a pot stirrer and loves drama.... I got a nasty email from "B" and I did not even respond back. Which only made her madder, that I won't play along. So apparently things have gotten out of hand with her trying to tell everyone who they are going to room and telling everyone what the trip itinerary is that she has decided on what's best for the group to point that several more ladies have dropped out. Normally we just get where we are going and decide then. This is the first time that "B" has been the point person for one of our trips...

After all this I just did a group email and bowed out and said I just can't make it right now.

So my question is would you be offended if someone in your group paid for their own room and did not want to share?

To answer the question, no I would not be offended.

To go to the question not asked, at this point, I think I would bail on the trip. You've already said you don't know if you're able to go, so I would just cancel. Why put yourself in (what appears to be) a drama filled weekend?

 

[DaisyJ]

To answer the question, no I would not be offended.

To go to the question not asked, at this point, I think I would bail on the trip. You've already said you don't know if you're able to go, so I would just cancel. Why put yourself in (what appears to be) a drama filled weekend?

Read to the end. She did.

 

[Christine]

I would not be offended at all. In fact, I would be that person booking my own room. I'm just too old to share. Too many sleep issues, etc.

As for "B", I'd actually be telling her off at this point. But...that's why I have no friends!!

 

[firecracker725]

Not only would I not be offended, I'd be doing the same dang thing. As I get older, I value my privacy and peace more than ever, and though sharing room can make a trip more affordable, if there's any way to avoid sharing a room I'm doing it.

 

[ronandannette]

Every year a group of my girl friends we plan a getaway for a girl long weekend. This year is Vegas, some shows, gambling, spa time, shopping and plenty of adult beverages... woo hoo...

So we got together for lunch to discuss what our options are, and where we want to stay, flights, and shows we might try to see.

So during the conversations, I reminded everyone that I wasn't 100% sure I would be able to go, but it wouldn't matter as I was booking my own room, and flight. So it didn't mess with anyone else plans. We are building a house, and our youngest daughter is having another baby and lives out of state... so I have a lot going on...

A few years ago I started doing this on our girls trips, just booking my own room, and I love it. So this is not the 1st time I have planned to do this. I am the type of person when I want to go to bed, I'm going to go to bed, I hate sharing a bathroom, and love having a king bed all to myself for a couple of nights. I am light sleeper, back and neck issue and sometimes I have to get up in the middle of the night and do stretch's, and really.... I just don't want to share... It's my time for me so if I am paying for it what's the dang big deal.

So after lunch we were all sitting around, catching up and chatting. One of the other ladies (lets call her K"), said it looks like we are sharing... I was like "what?" ... oh I said, I'm sorry, I'm not sure if I am even going, who told you we were sharing. So when she told me who told her (let use the initial "B"), I went straight to the source, and said why did you tell her that I am sharing with her, you know that I don't even know if I am going, yet... and if I do I am staying alone in the room that I am paying for. "B" said well to bad your going to have to share this trip, I said No! I'm not and that's that and ended the conversation.... I did speak to "K" and let her know that I was unsure if I was going and that it was not personal, and that did tell the everyone that my situation, she was fine with it and she completely understood.

There are a couple of other ladies that have since dropped out due to personal family stuff that they are not going to be able to go... So "K" has a room-mate.

The problem is that "B" is stirring the pot, basically running her mouth. She is a pot stirrer and loves drama.... I got a nasty email from "B" and I did not even respond back. Which only made her madder, that I won't play along. So apparently things have gotten out of hand with her trying to tell everyone who they are going to room and telling everyone what the trip itinerary is that she has decided on what's best for the group to point that several more ladies have dropped out. Normally we just get where we are going and decide then. This is the first time that "B" has been the point person for one of our trips...

After all this I just did a group email and bowed out and said I just can't make it right now.

So my question is would you be offended if someone in your group paid for their own room and did not want to share?

No, I personally wouldn't mind, but then again I'd actually be that person! Seriously though, it sounds like this particular group is kind of unravelling and your annual trips may be a thing of the past. With B becoming so overbearing, she may be the reason the other ladies dropped out as well. If there was a "next time" I'd be inclined to all get together before-hand and tell her directly that she either get back in line or she would not be welcome. It's a shame one person can stir up so much *******.

 

[fly girl]

I wouldn't be offended at all!

You made the right call opting out. Why does drama like this still happen with adults? Nonsense. "B" is a definite pot stirrer, and I would have been angry if I spent my good money to have the vacation ruined by these childish antics.

 

[DaisyJ]

I would do the same thing you're doing. I'd plan for a single room and then back out if the situation was the same. The only person that gets to decide what I do on my vacation is me. I'd also refuse to spend any further time in B's company.

 

[Meriweather]

I don't care if people have own room.
When BFF and I go on trips, I always get my own room. I like my space and I like quiet when I want it. Plenty of time for togetherness

 

[prprincess]

No, I would not be offended. There was a thread about staying with friends/family in their homes versus getting hotel rooms when visiting, and for me it's the same thing. I value my comfort, so I'm willing to spend the extra money for that, let alone privacy. When you share such small quarters with someone who is not your spouse/kids, you have to worry about getting in each other's way, sharing the bathroom, habits like snoring and teeth grinding, etc.

And I would have, like you, bailed on the trip. At this point, it's too much drama and tension to even be fun anymore. You may though, consider telling B how you feel or even writing her off. She sounds toxic!!

 

[lorimay]

As they say in Shark Tank........ "I'm Out"!!!
I would never be comfortable sharing a room with someone other then my immediate family.
You do what makes you happy, and forget about what anyone else says to thinks!!!

 

[Gumbo4x4]

B is out of line & more than likely the reason the trip is falling apart. Sorry to say, this may be the end of these trips for your group - or at least, the whole group

 

[leebee]

I wouldn't be offended, at all. I have a friend whose internal clock runs differently from mine. She has to eat at specific times, has to get a certain number of hours of sleep, etc., or she is cranky the entire trip, which makes the rest of us cranky. Honestly, she tries to run on others' schedules, but after a couple of days she needs to get her food and sleep. We've made some concessions, but we also know that if there's a late night event, this person won't be joining us, we'll have to stop along the way during the day for something to eat (although she's pretty good about stashing stuff in her bag), and if anyone wants to see a sunrise, she's your buddy, because she is UP at the crack of dawn. Fortunately I sleep like a log and she has an eyeshade, so I am happy to room with her; I can come in late and she can get up early, and neither is bothered by the other. HOWEVER, until we figured all this out and learned to accept differences, we had some rather testy weekends!

 

[CarolAnn856]

I think you chose the right initial for "B," lol.

I would not be offended at all, and there have been a couple of times when I did share and regretted it. I agree with ronandannette. If there is a trip next year, ground rules need to be set with B so she doesn't continue ruining a nice getaway.

 

[RangerPooh]

Not offended. I'd probably do the same thing. It's me time! Sounds like "B" is trying to be too controlling of the trip and I'd be like the others and bow out now.

 

[Westcoastwild]

B isn't even offended you didn't want to share a room. I don't understand why she's causing the drama to begin with. That is so weird.

I suspect, given that they haven't told B where to stick it, that these trips have just sort of died a natural death. Maybe your group is falling apart or maybe several members are having a difficult time justifying the expense as it was. It doesn't really sound like y'all are that close or maybe you're just slightly out of the loop for some reason.

I've been on trips where there is drama about who is going to share a room or where they want to stay. But it's usually money based. I just have gotten to the point where I only book somewhere I am willing to stay by myself, make my own plans, and if it works out, it works out.

 

[antmaril]

B is out of line. You have every right to make your own arrangements. I do that quite often when traveling with friends. I have even booked cabins on cruise ships as a single (which requires paying almost double for the cabin) because I want my own space.

 

[mnrose]

Absolutely not. I hate sharing a room in that kind of situation. I prefer my own. If you are willing to pay for it, WTH is the difference?

 

[amberpi]

I wouldn't be offended at all. Have done the same.

Maybe you should plan an alternate trip that fits your schedule with the house and see who else is now "miracously" free...