Control freaks are the worst. It is control freaks that are friends and friends of friends that I refuse to travel with. I will hang out in a group with them or do lunch as a group but never one on one or a girls trip.
I prefer tops 5 women on one trip. I did do a bachelorette party and I shared a room with 8 other women. I was hesitant about sharing with that many women but we had a penthouse suite so I went for it. We had an AWESOME time. I was actually surprised. Now the bride is a complete control freak and ruined the whole trip for herself (she was in a separate room with her MOH and separate friends) but us 9 still had fun on our own.
No, I wouldn't be offended.
Nor would I plan anymore trips with that "friend." I love group trips but my #1 rule is- make sure it's a compatible group. There are some we travel really well with and others who I enjoy but our travel/vacation styles are too different for a group trip to be a good idea.
Two years ago I passed on a trip with friends when it was clear we'd be on the pullout in the living room. Nope.
This year I passed on that same group trip when the house they booked sleeps 10, but only has one bathroom. Very big nope.
I have done a beach vacation with 23, but we had a bedroom with an ensuite, so it was fine.
Jen, I don't care how long I have known a friend or how well everyone gets along.
I AM NOT SHARING A BED.... (a room, well maybe... a bed... NEVER)
I actually see that as an issue...
There are those out there who actually see sharing a bed, drinks/food, etc.. as a necessary 'proof of friendship'.
Like they NEED this, and will be mortally offended... (to bad if you would have to deal with offended friends and be excuded from these trips and lose friendships if you personally required a bed of your own.)
No real 'friend' would be that way.
I do not choose to be friends with anyone who has that 'need'.
There is something that I like to call reasonable personal boundaries.
Jen, I don't care how long I have known a friend or how well everyone gets along.
I AM NOT SHARING A BED.... (a room, well maybe... a bed... NEVER)
I actually see that as an issue...
There are those out there who actually see sharing a bed, drinks/food, etc.. as a necessary 'proof of friendship'.
Like they NEED this, and will be mortally offended... (to bad if you would have to deal with offended friends and be excuded from these trips and lose friendships if you personally required a bed of your own.)
No real 'friend' would be that way.
I do not choose to be friends with anyone who has that 'need'.
There is something that I like to call reasonable personal boundaries.
Ummmm. Jen did say that 'Most of us share beds'
And, no, I do not like the idea of sharing drinks, as in slurping after each other......
I don't really think that makes me 'weird'. Maybe you don't want what 'I' have!!!!!
Yes, I have personally known a couple of people with this 'proof of friendship' issue.
I am so happy to give you all something to flame and attack!!!! Twist words, etc....
Glad to provide some entertainment!!!!
OP, I think "B" is our school secretary!
Many of us from school went to an AVID training conference. We got to pay the $700 for the conference ourselves as well as our hotel rooms, flights, and rental cars. The conference was by a Marriott and as I had enough points I decided to stay at the Marriott instead of the sponsoring hotel, as did two other teachers. Another teacher used the Hilton for the same reason. Free vs. another $200/night we're picking free, especially since we get to pay for everything else out of our own pockets.
Our school secretary had a fit! How dare we split up the group. Sorry, but a few of us had our spouses coming with us and they were going to sight-see and play golf while we were in the conference. No way am I sharing a room with my husband and another couple, even though we're really good friends and have vacationed together before. If we have to pay for everything, we pick where we stay.
5 years later and our "B" still holds a grudge against all of us who made our own plans.
Makes me wonder if she was trying to get reward points for herself by booking everyone's hotel rooms.