I'm in need of support and advice from my fellow disers right now... We get married on Wednesday at The Wedding Pavilion. We've already had six people drop out (luckily before the food deadline.) . But today, my fiancee texted his groomsmen to find out what time their planes land. Apparently, one hasn't even bought a ticket. He says that his job is trying to switch his days, and he doesn't know if he can make it. HE HASN'T BOUGHT A TICKET YET. We paid for the deposit on his suit and everything. He also RSVPed yes for my fiancees bachelor party on Monday, and now says Monday is the earliest he will know if he will be able to make it to the wedding or not. The deadline to get the money back for his plate has come and gone. And he didn't offer us this information, my fiancee had to ask him what time his plane was landing in order to find this out, I don't know when he was planning on telling us otherwise. WE'VE already paid for his hotel room too. What do we do? Do we just wait and see if he can make it? Do we replace him with one of the ushers now? If he doesn't show up, I don't know how we can continue being friends with him. I think I'm a pretty understanding person, but he's 38 years old (a full grown man), and at any point could have at least HINTED to us that there was a possibility he wouldn't be able to make it. Am I wrong to have the mind that if he doesn't come, he's out of our lives? I'm pretty much seething with rage right now. I have a million things on my to do list right now and don't need to be dealing with this. He says if he doesn't come he'll "make it up to us". I don't see how he could.