Lilacs4Me
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- Aug 31, 2015
All 3 of my kids went through stages where they wouldn't stay in bed. I didn't fight it....
for the first one, we transitioned him to a big kid bed when we moved when he was 2 1/2, and he ended up sleeping on his crib mattress in front of his bed for almost a year. He felt safer being near the ground and where he couldn't see the window. After that he would come into our room in the middle of the night, so eventually I started leaving a sleeping bag on the floor next to my side so when he came in he could lay there with his pillow and blanket. He would hold my hand as he feel back asleep.
He is 18 and in his first semester of college, and just typing this makes me miss him I *wish* he was still here to hold my hand at night instead of 5 hours away in a dorm!
He outgrew needing to sleep by us around kindergarten. But anytime he was feeling bad, he would come and lay down with me and we would just talk for a while.
DD14 and DS12 also did the sleeping bag thing for years. I think DD outgrew it around 7 or so (she was terrified of thunderstorms, so anytime there was a storm I would automatically put out the sleeping bag! And DS12 used to have night terrors, plus severe leg pain and gastro-intestinal pain at night, so he would often wake up and come into our room. He was the one that would quietly stand by my side until I woke up - freaked the heck out of me more than once! lol Once we got his pain management under control, he stopped coming to our room, which was when he was in 5th grade, about age 10.
I never made bedtime a battle...if it were me, I would set basic rules and boundaries and stick to them with the understanding that you have to be flexible based on your son's individual needs We never had much of a problem with the kids going to bed - our issues were them staying there all night - but they did go through screaming phases at bedtime when they were very young toddlers in cribs and we would do the patting their backs and not talking or making eye contact method, then sitting by the door, etc, etc until they stayed in bed or stopped crying and went to sleep. It didn't take long for them to fall asleep.
for the first one, we transitioned him to a big kid bed when we moved when he was 2 1/2, and he ended up sleeping on his crib mattress in front of his bed for almost a year. He felt safer being near the ground and where he couldn't see the window. After that he would come into our room in the middle of the night, so eventually I started leaving a sleeping bag on the floor next to my side so when he came in he could lay there with his pillow and blanket. He would hold my hand as he feel back asleep.
He is 18 and in his first semester of college, and just typing this makes me miss him I *wish* he was still here to hold my hand at night instead of 5 hours away in a dorm!
He outgrew needing to sleep by us around kindergarten. But anytime he was feeling bad, he would come and lay down with me and we would just talk for a while.
DD14 and DS12 also did the sleeping bag thing for years. I think DD outgrew it around 7 or so (she was terrified of thunderstorms, so anytime there was a storm I would automatically put out the sleeping bag! And DS12 used to have night terrors, plus severe leg pain and gastro-intestinal pain at night, so he would often wake up and come into our room. He was the one that would quietly stand by my side until I woke up - freaked the heck out of me more than once! lol Once we got his pain management under control, he stopped coming to our room, which was when he was in 5th grade, about age 10.
I never made bedtime a battle...if it were me, I would set basic rules and boundaries and stick to them with the understanding that you have to be flexible based on your son's individual needs We never had much of a problem with the kids going to bed - our issues were them staying there all night - but they did go through screaming phases at bedtime when they were very young toddlers in cribs and we would do the patting their backs and not talking or making eye contact method, then sitting by the door, etc, etc until they stayed in bed or stopped crying and went to sleep. It didn't take long for them to fall asleep.