Rob and Scott's Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding-TR Pg 92; Photo Update pg 133

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Ooooooohh -- you both look so nice! I can hardly wait for more :goodvibes (Note to self: Ixnay on the uiltgay)
 
Your breakfast sounds yummy! I've had potica before at a work function. It was really good. No ham though.

You both look great! Such nice smiles. You can see the excitement.

Thanks for this installment! :thumbsup2
 
Hi. I just want to say how happy I am for you and your partner. Your cake is beautiful. I am sure it tasted as good as it looks. You make me proud that I am a mother of a gay son. I hope one day that he meets his lifetime partner. As a Disney family, I know that his wedding ( and I say marriage, not civil union) will also be at WDW. The first time that we stayed at the Poly he was 2 months old. We have returned 3-4 times each year..And throw in 10 Disney cruises.. Yeah...We are Disney fanatics.....There just is not anything that can compare to the high we get from Disney...

I have lurked at the Gay and Lesbian site for 6 months or so. I must say that there is no hatred or arguing on this site...(If only there was no confrontations on the other boards...can we say Community Board?) Your family is so accepting and loving. I only wish my mom and dad (son's grandparent's) were as open-minded as yours.

I was raised in an extremely religious family. I mean right-wing, blessed with the holy-spirit, speaking in tongues, all night revival family. I always felt that they were judgemental. You will go to hell if you dress this way, smoke, drink, etc...As a teenager, I always debated my dad on these issues. I have always felt that God cares what is in your heart not what is on the outside..You know, what kind of person you are in the inside, not what you look like from the outside..After reading the posts on this site for 6 months now, I think all of you have more love, compassion, courage, and tolerance than all the other boards combined. It makes me proud to be a mom of a gay son.

I always argued with my father about homosexuality. He said that God condemned it because it was something that you chose. I said, (this was in the 70's) that it was the way you were born. Why would someone choose to be in the minority? They would not. God made them that way. As I grew older, my feelings did not change. My parents chose (and still do to this day) to bury their heads in the sand. My brother is 46 (never been married, one girlfriend in middle school), brother-in-law 61 (never had a girlfriend), neice 30 (never had a boyfriend). I tell you there is something in the genes. (Oh yeah, it is a choice!!!)

You are so blessed to have such an accepting family. My daughters and their (husband, boyfriend) accept their brother as he is. My husband has accepted him (although not as fast as we girls) too. Hell, the girls knew when he was six years-old. I knew when he was three. I always wonder if I argued with my dad when I was younger because I knew that I would have a gay son.

Anyway, I am so proud of my son for coming out when he was in high school. I know that this was not an eay thing to do. I just hugged him and said that I always felt that he was gay. But I will admit, that I did go through a brief period of mourning. I don't know why, I did know..I guess it was just all the feelings of what the average American family would be. You know, a wife, 2 kids, etc. I now look back on that and think, what was wrong with me? My son is one of the most compassionate, loving, thoughtful persons that I know.

I just wanted to let you know, that you bring hope to me that my son will some day meet his lifetime partner. He has had one 18 month relationship with a very nice boy. We met his family and they too were accepting. My son has now gone off to college and has grown as a person. He has made new friends amd they are all very accepting. Hey he is even in a fraternity.

I hope that one day that all the world can be as accepting as this site is. I see more love and compassion in here than I do in every day life. May you and your partner have a lifetime of love and happiness... I know that you must live very close to Magic Kingdom, so the next time that you go watch Wishes, shed a few tears for my son and I (we just can't hear that music and not cry.) Starlight, starbright, I wish upon a star tonight....May your love for one another grow each night.
I apologize to you guys for jumping in here, but her post just got to me! So..thanks for being such a terrific mom. You sound just like my mom. And believe me, my brother was/is so grateful for our mom's attitude! It has made his life so much easier than some of his friends' lives...their parents have a very archaic attitude..not good at all. Not to say that my brother has it easy, he doesn't. But, at least he had my mom in his corner while she was alive.

But...on a more upbeat note...loving the report. I wish I had known you guys were just aross the lake from me!! I would have raised a glass, or three, in your honor!!! Keep the report coming though...it's a hoot. I'm loving the photos..you guys look so happy. As well as so very handsome!!:love:
 


Day Four - Sunday September 28th-THE BIG DAY!- Part Two

This was it! We were climbing into the limo to head off to Pleasure Island! At this point, I reached an important turning point in the planning/organization of "Our Big Fat Gay Disney Wedding". Getting the six of us downstairs and into the limo was the last thing that was my responsibility. From here on out, it was up to the fantastic folks with Disney Fairy Tale Weddings to worry about. I absolved myself of any further worries and determined that I wasn't going to stress on anything else. I was going to enjoy our special day. I was going to enjoy being with Scott, and let everything else go.

Does this sound like "famous last words" do anyone? ::yes::

Getting the limousine was a fairly last minute add-on to our plan. Not having to worry about driving, making sure that my mom had to walk as little as possible, being all together. It made perfect sense and was well worth the expense. Or so you'd have thought. But we'll get back to that.

The limo ride from the Boardwalk to Pleasure Island was quick and uneventful. They had some soft drinks on ice in the limo for us. We gladly passed around a bottle of water. Everyone was smiling. We were having fun.

As we pulled up to Pleasure Island, Randy Chapman ran to meet the limo and started snapping pictures. How cool. We had our own personal paparazzi!

In all honesty, I can say nothing but fantastic things about Randy Chapman. He was amazing. When we needed to be doing things, he was unabtrusive and seemingly in two or three places at once snapping pictures. If we had a moment of "down time" and he thought he could get a good shot, he pulled us aside and had us pose. It really was the perfect balance of posing us and just documenting what was going on. I can't wait to see his pictures!

We walked slowly from the fountain near Planet Hollywood across the bridge to Pleasure Island and to the Adventurers Club. Lots of people stopped to look (people dressed up nicely with a photographer snapping away tends to draw attention :rotfl: ) I'm sure there were a lot of folks thinking "I wonder where the bride is" :rotfl2:

What a huge difference from the day before. The "tent city" was gone, of course, and we could walk right up to the main entrance of the club. We were let right in and greeted by Marion and her team (Kevin & Liddy were her assistants that day). We were quickly joined by Tyler and his friend Cat who was there as his guest. (We love Cat and were very glad she was joining us.) David and Wil showed up soon thereafter. And then Renee.

It was so nice to see the club back to normal. The Main Salon Chairs were all back (and after Tyler and I did some quick re-arranging they were back into their correct places. :lmao: )

We were shown into the Library and were very happy to see that all of the Christmas & Halloween decorations had disappeared over night. Before I knew what happened, we all had our boutonnieres and corsages on. We were about to start taking pictures when I realized that I had left the folder with the wedding readings and the guest list back in our villa. :eek: I asked David and Sofia if they happened to have copies of the readings we'd asked them to do. David did. Sofia didn't. The beautiful reading "Let's Grow Old Together" was back at the Boardwalk. I turned to Renee and said "well, we'll have to cut it." and then to Sofia and said I was sorry, but we simply didn't have it.

That's when Renee came to our rescue. She said she didn't have a copy of the readings we'd selected, but in her "ceremony folder" she still had copies of the readings she was going to suggest. We quickly glanced through the ones she had and picked one that we liked. It wasn't the one we wanted. But it was one that would work, and was short enough that Sofia could read through it a few times before she'd have to read it. Catastrophe averted! And we got through it with no stress. At the time it wasn't a big deal. We knew that some things wouldn't go exactly as planned, but figured we'd roll with it as it happened. We did. :thumbsup2

So then we started taking pictures. We got a bunch of great shots around the Main Salon and all of a sudden our first "guests" were there. This was a huge surprise. Not because we didn't know guests would be arriving soon. But because the first people to show up and happily congratulate us HADN'T BEEN INVITED! :scared:

That's right. We had wedding crashers. These folks were people that we knew, but didn't know very well. They were other Adventurers Club regulars, so we'd been in social situations with them before, and had been friendly, but not friendly enough to invite them to the wedding. She'd been joking (or so I thought) that she was going to crash if we didn't invite them. I responded right back that we'd have security at the door waiting for them. And now here they were. Randy & Jodie weren't there yet; we had asked them to check the guest list at the door. And I didn't have the guest list. The crasher hugged me and said "Are you mad? Are you going to make us leave? We brought a card." At which point my "I refuse to stress on anything" mantra kicked in and I decided to be gracious. I told them that I wouldn't ask them to leave, but to please wait with the other guests upstairs while we took pictures.

Marion was PEEVED! She ran upstairs to tell the door hosts to not let anyone else in until we were done with photos. In the meantime, we moved into the library and closed the doors, that way people could gather in the Main Salon and enjoy the champagne punch (fruit punch for the kids) and cookies that we'd decided upon as a way to meet the food and beverage minimum for renting the Adventurers Club.

Once in the Library, we took all the "standard" wedding party pictures. And then we let the rest of the wedding party head over into the Main Salon to mingle with everyone else, while Scott and I stayed in the Library with Randy. Just us. Alone in the main show room at the Adventurers Club with a photographer. You KNOW we have some great pictures! :woohoo:

About 20 mintues after they started serving, we were informed that they had run through all of the champagne punch we had pre-ordered and wanted to know what we wanted to do. This was a no-brainer. Keep serving! Charge us for it later. We weren't going to stop service with 40 minutes left before the ceremony would start.

At 3:30pm we were pretty much done with pictures, and we had 30 more minutes to go before we planned on starting things out in the Main Salon. Marion had glasses of chapmagne punch for us an asked what we wanted to do. This was a really easy decision to make. Our friends and family were in the Main Salon being social at the Adventurers Club. No brainer. We were going to go join them until it was time to start!

Some pictures of mingling:
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My Brother Dennis and my Dad
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Scott and I walk into the Main Salon
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When Scott and I walked into the room, everyone broke into applause. I was taken by surprise. I hadn't expected that. All eyes were on us. I said "We've got drinks, we're going to mingle." That got a small laugh, and we made our rounds of the room greeting everyone.

More details of our "BIG DAY" coming soon!
 


Wedding crashers??!?!? :scared1: OMG the nerve of some people! How RUDE!!

How wonderful to be able to mingle with the guests before the wedding, what a great way to relax and destress before the big moment!
 
Okay, here's a creepy question.

Lynn, were you at the Magic Kingdom on Wednesday, October 1st? I could have sworn I saw two people that looked like you and your hubby entering as we left.

Yes sir I was!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are like the tenth person on here who said they saw me lol!!!
 
Wedding crashers??!?!? :scared1: OMG the nerve of some people! How RUDE!!

You've got no idea. And neither did we, at the time. It gets worse.

How wonderful to be able to mingle with the guests before the wedding, what a great way to relax and destress before the big moment!

See, this is one thing I can't imagine happening at a straight wedding. No-offense to any of you lovely ladies intended, of course. But with a straight wedding, it's all about the reveal. "Oooh. Look at the dress!", "The groom hasn't seen it yet", etc. It's part of the show with a straight wedding.

With two guys in suits, there's no surprise. No one is expecting that "gasp" moment. So it's more casual. At least in our case it was.

And it was a MUCH better last memory of spending time with our friends in our favorite place than the one we left with Thursday night. Or even for those people who had been there for the club's last night. Many people said that this was a better way for all of us to have a happy memory rather than the overcrowded freakfest the club had become in the last few weeks.
 
Yeah for two updates!!! :yay: :yay: :yay:

This is what I get when I stay away for a day or so to get some work done before I go on vaca! I can't wait to see how much I have to read when I get back from being away for 2 weeks! :yay: :yay: :yay:

Everything sounds great Rob! I had a breakdown moment when people were not paying attention to the (very expensive) photographer, but them I decided, much like you, to ignore everybody and do what I needed to do!

And, as a participant (;) ) in a straight wedding, I must tell you that you are right... mingling prior to the ceremony would have been near impossible... with the train of my dress already laid out and everything.... there would have been no way!

I can't believe people really crashed your wedding. I mean there is joking about it but actually doing it?!? Wow! How about a little respect? :confused3
 
If I had known you were going to be so gracious I would have crashed the wedding.

I just remember last time I made you mad there was yelling and muppets died, I didn't want to run the risk.
 
If I had known you were going to be so gracious I would have crashed the wedding.

I just remember last time I made you mad there was yelling and muppets died, I didn't want to run the risk.

First off, no muppets actually died. I was framed.

Secondly, it was because of these people and others (including Crasher's son and his girlfriend, thankfully they didn't come along, too) that I was so touchy on the boards. It was a very real concern to me. And can anyone now blame me for worrying about it.

Thirdly. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't have been so gracious. You've not heard the whole story yet.
 
First off, no muppets actually died. I was framed.

Secondly, it was because of these people and others (including Crasher's son and his girlfriend, thankfully they didn't come along, too) that I was so touchy on the boards. It was a very real concern to me. And can anyone now blame me for worrying about it.

Thirdly. If I knew then what I know now, I wouldn't have been so gracious. You've not heard the whole story yet.

Well I'm a lot less gracious than you. If you had let me come along I would have gone medieval on those people's ***** for you :flower3:
 
Well I'm a lot less gracious than you. If you had let me come along I would have gone medieval on those people's ***** for you :flower3:

You'd have had to stand in line. :lmao: Several of our friends were much more upset than we were at the time.

At the time, it wasn't worth it to me to make a scene. They'd always been pleasant enough people. There were certainly other people that used to hang out at the Adventurers Club that we would have had escorted out (and asked Randy Chapman to take pictures of it:rotfl: ) but given what we knew at the time, it wasn't worth it.
 
You'd have had to stand in line. :lmao: Several of our friends were much more upset than we were at the time.

At the time, it wasn't worth it to me to make a scene. They'd always been pleasant enough people. There were certainly other people that used to hang out at the Adventurers Club that we would have had escorted out (and asked Randy Chapman to take pictures of it:rotfl: ) but given what we knew at the time, it wasn't worth it.

Don't tell me they had the gall to show up at the reception :scared1:

Wait, wait, I can wait, see how patient I am :yay:
 
There's more!?!?!! :scared1:

You are definately right about us brides not being able to mingle. Hmm...we kind of did that to ourselves, i guess. :rotfl:
 

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