Wendy31
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Mar 5, 2005
My mom is 70 this year, & DH's mom is in her mid-70s. They have just now started relinquishing some of the holiday hostess duties within the last 2-3 years.
On my side, there are currently 13 of us for family get-togethers.
I have taken over Thanksgiving from my mom & host Thanksgiving at our house. However, my mom still wants Easter & Christmas at her house.
My sister & I each contribute 2-3 dishes for the holiday gatherings that my parents host at their house. We also help w/ the preparation & clean-up.
On DH's side, there are currently 20 for family get-togethers (including some new great grandchildren) - sometimes more when girlfriends/boyfriends are added.
DH's mom, who is in her mid 70s, would still do all the holidays if she could (& she never likes anyone bringing any dishes - she wants to do it all! LOL!), but his dad is not doing well.
DH's older brother & his wife host Easter & Thanksgiving at their house, mainly for his wife's side of the family, but they usually invite DH's parents to join them.
While DH's mother has stopped hosting Easter & Thanksgiving due to DH's dad's health, she still likes to, at least, have Christmas at their house. So, I assume we'll probably still have some kind of family Christmas celebration at DH's parents' house this year as well.
Both DH's mom & my mom host Christmas Eve at their respective houses. DH & I invite our parents to join us for Christmas Day dinner.
I honestly cannot fathom either my mom or DH's mom ever voluntarily giving up hosting a Christmas celebration at their houses. But that's mine & DH's moms. Everyone is different.
If you feel like you're ready to pass the baton or have part of your Christmas celebration at a restaurant, that's fine - especially if hosting has become burdensome for you. I'm sure your family would not want to burden you, & maybe, if you talk to your children, together, you all can plan a Christmas celebration w/ some new traditions.
EDITED TO ADD: However, if you are truly ready to give up hosting, be prepared for your children & their families to be content to split up into their nuclear families for their own Christmas celebrations. Since your son hosts Thanksgiving, he & his family may not want Christmas as well, & your daughter may not be able or want to host Christmas.
On my side, there are currently 13 of us for family get-togethers.
I have taken over Thanksgiving from my mom & host Thanksgiving at our house. However, my mom still wants Easter & Christmas at her house.
My sister & I each contribute 2-3 dishes for the holiday gatherings that my parents host at their house. We also help w/ the preparation & clean-up.
On DH's side, there are currently 20 for family get-togethers (including some new great grandchildren) - sometimes more when girlfriends/boyfriends are added.
DH's mom, who is in her mid 70s, would still do all the holidays if she could (& she never likes anyone bringing any dishes - she wants to do it all! LOL!), but his dad is not doing well.
DH's older brother & his wife host Easter & Thanksgiving at their house, mainly for his wife's side of the family, but they usually invite DH's parents to join them.
While DH's mother has stopped hosting Easter & Thanksgiving due to DH's dad's health, she still likes to, at least, have Christmas at their house. So, I assume we'll probably still have some kind of family Christmas celebration at DH's parents' house this year as well.
Both DH's mom & my mom host Christmas Eve at their respective houses. DH & I invite our parents to join us for Christmas Day dinner.
I honestly cannot fathom either my mom or DH's mom ever voluntarily giving up hosting a Christmas celebration at their houses. But that's mine & DH's moms. Everyone is different.
If you feel like you're ready to pass the baton or have part of your Christmas celebration at a restaurant, that's fine - especially if hosting has become burdensome for you. I'm sure your family would not want to burden you, & maybe, if you talk to your children, together, you all can plan a Christmas celebration w/ some new traditions.
EDITED TO ADD: However, if you are truly ready to give up hosting, be prepared for your children & their families to be content to split up into their nuclear families for their own Christmas celebrations. Since your son hosts Thanksgiving, he & his family may not want Christmas as well, & your daughter may not be able or want to host Christmas.