- Feb 1, 2013
OH no so sorry your princess had her heart broken at the tea. What a shame that you did everything right and it didn't work out right.We got back yesterday, here is an update from our trip:
A couple weeks before the trip, my older child (Evan) decided she would prefer to be a girl and has now requested female pronouns. She wants to keep her same name for now. Hey, there is Evan Rachel Wood (the actress), so it can work, we think...
Overall, the trip went well. She has long, curly hair so she is universally assumed to be female. So that works and CMs / other guests guess correctly and use female pronouns. The only issues we had were that I ordered a Disney Floral package ahead of time that included pillow cases. I specifically requested Pink font color and the Minnie pillow case. But they gave her Mickey and blue writing. I just wrote them a somewhat nasty email, explaining that my daughter was heart broken from this because she wanted the same color and Minnie like her sister got (who has a classic "girl" name). But regardless, they should not change the order without calling me and checking if I made a mistake. Not a fun way to end our first night.
The other "problem" was the reason I started this thread in the first place... she wanted to do the Perfectly Princess Tea and wanted the "girl" gifts. To make sure this would happen, I even called ahead (no problem I was told) and also created a fake MDE profile (using "Miss"). But when they announced us, they said "Prince Evan". She started crying and said she didn't want the bear and sword and wanted to go back to the hotel. They did fix it and wasn't a problem from then on. But again, not a fun way to start an event.
My wife and I are still adjusting to being fully consistent with the pronouns, and if we slipped and used "he", every CM we encountered still didn't skip a beat. I was impressed.
So overall... the trip went quite well, the problems above not withstanding.
Now back to reality and the need to tell grandparents about the change in pronouns. Ugh. If only we lived in disney world all year!
Just wondering how do they get the names for the tea? It would be a shock if they saw MISS EVAN and a child with long hair (and I assume she still likes princess dresses) and still said prince. My niece has a masculine name and I know her mom was looking at this but I want to warn them if they may slip up. It would seem if a parent provided MISS on everything the announcing CM shouldn't have assumed anything as there are many little girls now that have what would be considered boy names.
The floral issues is also bad. If the embroiderer was confused they should have called or emailed to clarify not assumed that you chose the wrong col.or and pillow case. Again what if a girl had wanted blue and Mickey or a boy pink and Minnie. Such a silly thing to assume a parent/gift giver did wrong.
I'm glad the rest of the trip was wonderful.