- Mar 5, 2016
ok, something serious this time. Does anyone have any tips on coming out? I'm not exactly sure how to tell my family or even if I really should.
To do the things I want to do without fear of being ridiculed is one reason yes. The other is just to be me and not have to feel like there is something wrong with me because I have to hide this part of my life. (... and to eventually find the right guy for me and be able to snatch him up lol) those are the reasons I would want to come out.Hi Greg,
So the main reason why you want to come out is so you could do some traditionally "girly" things. Does that mean you haven't nor are you currently doing those things? Any other reasons?
I completely agree with earfulofmagic on not coming out at this time.
I would definitely spare your grandmother the experience of you coming out while she's battling lung cancer.
As for your brother, coming out might mean doing more damage to an already strained relationship.
This opinion comes from my personal experience, coming out at 22, it took a good 20 years for my family to finally (kinda) come to terms with my sexuality. And to tell you the truth, almost 30 years later, I'm still a,little bitter about the whole situation, since I was under the impression that they would be understanding and supportive.
My family will ridicule you for things far smaller than this lol, we aren't a very tender bunch I'm afraid.I would not expect being ridiculed, in case it happens, just by being out. If it's going to happen it's likely to happen either way.
Ask yourself this, do you need any more stress in your life at the moment?
That is true. I suppose life in the wide world goes on much as it has this past age, full of its own comings and goings, scarcely aware of the existence of TheGreg... for which I am very thankful.This assumes that the "right guy" is out. He may be just as closeted as you for good reasons.