@tinkerbellandeeyor I want you to do me a favor.
Sit down.
Take a deep breath.
And then realize that
everything will be as OK as it can be.
Now I'm going to talk to you like you are one of my own. As my Grandma used to say "I'm about to tell you how the cow ate the cabbage!" LOL
Sweetie, you all are going to
Disney World. The sheer number of people who would trade places with you in a heartbeat is *staggering*. Trust me when I tell you this: for all of the worrying that you are doing right now, you will find that
things will go as they go - and that 95% of your worry was for naught. WDW is the easiest place in the world to vacation - especially if you do it like I do, and literally let Disney do everything from the moment you arrive until the moment you leave. I leave reality, dirty laundry, cooking, cleaning, making doctor appointments, filling prescriptions, housework, shopping, errands, ALL OF IT behind, and I just live inside that big ol' beautiful Disney bubble.
What you
need to do is make sure that you have planned for everything that you *can* control - so focus on packing, and making sure that you have what you and your DH will need for each trip. Double check travel arrangements, and then make like Elsa, and
let it go. And as you go along, use each trip as a learning device - keep what works, and don't be afraid to try new things to replace what didn't work. You may be surprised - many people thrive on travel.
If you know that having earplugs will help him in certain situations, by all means, bring them. If he sleeps better with a white noise machine, pack it, and bring it along. You - more than anyone here - know him better than probably anyone else because you are married to him. Focus your energy on what you *can* do, and seriously - let go of what you cannot control. Which, yes, seems like a lot, and is very scary. But you are already at a place where you won't enjoy your own vacation if you can't figure out how to prioritize everything you and your DH need to travel.
If your DH wants to go and travel three times in less than a year, then go - as long as you all can afford it and you both want to go, etc. Those topics are between you and your spouse.
Remember this one last thing; it's important:
IT WILL NOT BE PERFECT. Your Disney World vacation will look
NOTHING like the commercials on TV. It will most likely be crowded and noisy and there *will be* lines for everything - rides, attractions, meet-n-greets, food, restrooms... everything. Everything will cost more than you feel like it should. Your feet will hurt at the end of the day. Your nose will get sunburned. You may get rained on. You will be hot and sweaty and exhausted, and it's OK, because all of that is part and parcel of going to Disney World! It's part of the shared madness that somehow endears us to the place. My husband says every trip is like having a child - right after its over, you swear you will never do *that* again, and then as time passes... you forget why you felt that way, and the memories are softened with time, and suddenly you are crying because you saw another Disney commercial on TV, and all you want to do is go back to Florida. And it will start all over again. And *that trip* won't be perfect either, but you will - in time - forget that too. So it's important to remember that
NO ONE has a "perfect" trip - no matter how great they say it is, or how awesomely amazing the pictures are on Facebook or Instagram, no one ever gets a "perfect" trip. Things happen - to all of us. The trick to having a
GREAT trip is whenever you have a problem, build a bridge, get over it, and go on. Focus on the fun you *can* have, and *have had*.
Focus on the positive.
Focus on what you can control.
Focus on making memories with your DH - and not making yourself so stressed out.
I know it seems like it is easier said than done, but a large part of surviving marriage, and adulthood, and life in general is figuring out what you can let go of, and what you need to hang on to.
And those same priorities apply here.
I hope - with all of my heart - that you do have the best possible trip.
(((Hugs)))
MB
