wedding guest etiquette question

[MrsCobraBubbles]

I have another wedding to go to, this one is a more informal, fire hall wedding. I don't want to go out and buy a new outfit and I was wondering whether I could wear a top I bought on Amazon a while back, I've never worn it because I never had anywhere to wear it. It's a delicate gauzy material so I can't wear it to work, it would be ruined, and I never dress up to hang out with friends. This is the shirt:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B07DMXPVPK/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o05_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1&psc=1
it says it is white but it's actually more of a cream color in person. Anyway, is it ok for a woman to wear a white shirt to a wedding? I feel like it's ok because it's a blouse, not a dress. I was thinking about wearing the shirt with a black maxi skirt or black dress pants.

 

[FayeW]

It's fine. Not sure why it matters where you bought it, though. It's a nice top.

 

[MrsCobraBubbles]

It's fine. Not sure why it matters where you bought it, though. It's a nice top.

I don't know, I guess I have guilt about not spending a fortune on clothes for a wedding? I like it too, it looks cute on.

 

[superme80]

I think it is fine.

 

[starry_solo]

I would be concerned about possibly looking like the wait staff with a white shirt and black bottoms (pants or skirt)

 

[jaiminee krikit]

I personally wouldn't wear that color to someone else's wedding. My aunt wore a white jacket to my wedding and I'm still a little irritated about it. Unless you possibly know that the bride isn't wearing white/ivory.

 

[Disneylover99]

I don't know, I guess I have guilt about not spending a fortune on clothes for a wedding? I like it too, it looks cute on.

I feel guilt if I do spend a fortune on clothing.
It looks lovely. Wear it.

 

[tzolkin]

I personally wouldn't wear that color to someone else's wedding. My aunt wore a white jacket to my wedding and I'm still a little irritated about it. Unless you possibly know that the bride isn't wearing white/ivory.

Really? I can’t understand why anyone would be bothered by this.

One of my best friend’s mother wore a wedding-looking dress (off white with full skirt/train) to her wedding. She actually changed into it right at the last minute and walked down the “aisle” (outdoor wedding) right before my friend. That was certainly ridiculous and a very obvious “desperate for attention” move. But a white jacket or shirt I can’t see any issue with.

 

[ronandannette]

Really? I can’t understand why anyone would be bothered by this.

One of my best friend’s mother wore a wedding-looking dress (off white with full skirt/train) to her wedding. She actually changed into it right at the last minute and walked down the “aisle” (outdoor wedding) right before my friend. That was certainly ridiculous and a very obvious “desperate for attention” move. But a white jacket or shirt I can’t see any issue with.

Crazy story but a far-cry from the nice, simple blouse @MrsCobraBubbles is considering.

I think the blouse is just fine but I do agree white top/black bottoms is a little "uniform-y". Maybe do it with another colour pant or a skirt in floral print with a little bit of white to pick up? Either way, I like that shirt and I love the price!

 

[jdb in AZ]

I don't know, I guess I have guilt about not spending a fortune on clothes for a wedding? I like it too, it looks cute on.

Don't beat yourself up about not spending a lot of $$$. Be happy you found such a deal, and let your friends wonder where you got it.

Sunday I wore a gauzy floral jacket over a long black dress and a friend asked if I'd bought it at one of the exotic places I'd been. I told her no, that I'd found it online and asked if she considered that exotic. We laughed about it. I didn't tell her what I'd paid for it. (That's on a need-to-know-basis, so even DH doesn't know -- and doesn't care.)

 

[indimom]

If its an informal fire hall wedding (like we in my area), I doubt there will be any wait staff.
I think it's very pretty and would definitely wear it to a wedding.

 

[DisneyHardin]

Until I started reading the Dis Boards and "JustnoMIL" on Reddit, I had no idea that people got so upset with other guests wearing anything white to their wedding. Honestly, I couldn't tell you what anyone had one at my wedding other than me and the bridesmaids.

I wore a cute white dress with a green sweater over it to a wedding about 4 or 5 years ago and thought nothing of it. Now that I realize what I faux pas I made, I feel terrible that I wore it and hope that my friend wasn't talking bad about me to other people for having worn it.

 

[FlightlessDuck]

My aunt wore a white jacket to my wedding and I'm still a little irritated about it.

Ok, I'll bite. Why?

 

[aprilgail]

it is fine- if the bride is irritated by someone wearing white there is a pretty good chance she is a bridezilla and nothing will make her happy.

 

[Allison]

I can't imagine being upset about a white blouse.

 

[luvsJack]

Until I started reading the Dis Boards and "JustnoMIL" on Reddit, I had no idea that people got so upset with other guests wearing anything white to their wedding. Honestly, I couldn't tell you what anyone had one at my wedding other than me and the bridesmaids.

I wore a cute white dress with a green sweater over it to a wedding about 4 or 5 years ago and thought nothing of it. Now that I realize what I faux pas I made, I feel terrible that I wore it and hope that my friend wasn't talking bad about me to other people for having worn it.

I didn’t know either! 20 years ago I wore an off white dress to my nieces wedding. She is divorced and very happily remarried and I still want to apologize to her when I think about it!

 

[cheryl.UK]

Team it with nice shoes and bag and a fab bold necklace so that you don't clash with servers and you'll look great. I know that brides can be huffy about white/ cream dresses but not tops.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

I can't imagine being upset about a white blouse.

or a white jacket.

OP - I'd wear it with a nice turquoise or coral statement necklace, black cocktail pants and strappy sandals. I doubt you'll be confused with the waitstaff.

 

[RUDisney]

The best deal I ever found for a wedding was in Salvation Army. My DD needed clothing to wear in SDak and then leave at the reservation. I didn't want her taking her favorite things to leave behind, so I shopped Sally's. They had a formal dress rack, so I looked at it, not expecting anything much. I found a gorgeous sheath dress that was all sparkly. It was $10. I bragged to everyone at this family wedding about the deal I got. I'm thinking about wearing it to my class reunion in November, but after seeing your blouse, OP, I may change my mind.

On another occasion, I was looking for something in Sally's. Again, formal dress rack... I found a beaded gown from Talbot's for $10. I bought it, but haven't had the opportunity to wear it yet.

 

[nkereina]

Cute shirt! I also think its fine.