Synonymous, I totally agree with you. The noise level, and the the "picking" by the waitstaff can be excussed, and the enjoyment level may be due to your mood, the people in the party you are in, and various other factors. I just couldn't deal with the food...yuck! And to have to wait, with PS, for over 1 1/2 hours and then another 45 minutes for the food to arrive... no way! The lunch and dinner are on my "never again" list, as well. We did enjoy breakfast, though! The food was very good, no wait, and since we were there early, the waitstaff was not up to its normal level of "picking"...also it was probably the only time that the restaurant was quiet!
As for kids at AP...go for it! Kids are made to feel welcome, and there are special menus for kids throughout all of the WDW restaurants. Victoria and Albert's is the exception. There is no kids menu, and the setting is decidedly not something that kids would enjoy, and most people go there because it is a special occasion.