wwyd bingo and friend

[lanejudy]

the advantage of splitting since you have double the chance of winning but when it’s so one sided

If you are splitting the winnings because it gives you "double the chance of winning" -- then you are playing as a "team" and not individuals. You are each equally paying into it, and equally sharing the wins. In basic terms, you pool your money, buy 2 cards, and each play one card on behalf of the "team." Stop looking at it as "I win or she wins" but more like "we play, we win, we share."

If you view it as one-sided (as quoted), then it's no longer a "team." Play for yourself, keep your winnings. But don't get upset if she wins big and doesn't share.

As PP mentioned, I might be concerned about tax implications with lopsided winnings, but maybe it's not enough to impact your tax return and therefore a non-issue for you.

 

[StitchesGr8Fan]

If you are splitting the winnings, you are each getting the same amount regardless of who wins.

If you stop splitting, there is the chance you will take home less money if she wins a lot and you don’t. Or it’s possible that you may win more.

It’s just another gamble.

 

[lovesmurfs]

If you are splitting the winnings because it gives you "double the chance of winning" -- then you are playing as a "team" and not individuals. You are each equally paying into it, and equally sharing the wins. In basic terms, you pool your money, buy 2 cards, and each play one card on behalf of the "team." Stop looking at it as "I win or she wins" but more like "we play, we win, we share."

If you view it as one-sided (as quoted), then it's no longer a "team." Play for yourself, keep your winnings. But don't get upset if she wins big and doesn't share.

As PP mentioned, I might be concerned about tax implications with lopsided winnings, but maybe it's not enough to impact your tax return and therefore a non-issue for you.

This is really well said. If you're resenting it, I would tell her that starting the New Year, you'd like to just go to playing your own card.

 

[jalapeno_pretzel]

So you resent sharing the winnings after you both agreed to share the winnings, if she was winning more, you would feel awkward sharing the winnings that you had both agreed to share, and one of your biggest issues with her is that she ran up to the stage too excitedly after her card won once?

I'm thinking this is neither a good hobby nor a good friend for you.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

I think the problem is is that neither of you consider yourselves to be "partners" I'm in a partner lottery group at work, me and mom partner at the race track (horse). We each put in an equal amount of money and we're PARTNERS. Never once have thought "gee, I'm giving out more money than you are". You just each just play for yourselves from now on. This isn't going to end well.

 

[lovemygoofy]

Do you share the fee for playing bingo? Like you each pay half and split the cards or each pay for their own pack? If you're splitting the fee and packs and you dont want share, you can't split the fees.

 

[Hikergirl]

Just tell her you don't want to share the winnings, that it's every woman for themselves.

 

[Nancyg56]

It seems to me that this is an arrangement that is not working for you, so I woudl stop the arrangement. The problem is that if you agree to participating as a team, you need to honor that agreement and shoudl not resent it. You resent it, so stop participating.

Years ago my Mom and my aunts used to go to Bingo together. My aunt drove, my Mom packed the lunch. My aunts had an agreement, if someone won the big jackpot game they gave a percentage to the driver. My Mom never agreed to this arrangement, however she never verbalized that she was not in agreement. You guessed it. It took a while, but she won. And she did not give her percentage to my aunt. Oh my gosh! What an uproar! My Mom did not have much, certainly not the kind of money those two had, so she really wanted her prize, but by not telling them in advance she would not participate in their deal, she really made them mad. They stopped including her in the bingo trips. Frankly I think it was kind of harsh, but to them it was not the money, but the principle, and I understood that. It really as not worth the money she kept, or the resentment they shared, though. One Aunt died shortly after that, and none of the hard feelings had been resolved reallly. DOn't do that. Just tell your friend no more splitting the winnings,

 

[fly girl]

I don't play bingo sharing, but I do play the slots where my bf and I each put in a equal amount of money and split the winnings. We decide as a team to keep playing the machine or to stop. We have hit a jackpot, and I was the one who pressed the button, so I got the tax form. (We calculated how much Uncle Sam was going to take, so we took that out of the winnings and split the profit.) It works for us. We love playing together.

Now, as for Bingo it sounds like it is pretty similar in that you both buy the same amount of cards and you split your winnings. If someone did have to file a claim, you need to do what we did otherwise it is a terrible disadvantage to the winner of that game.

The only part I would be worried about is if she is not good with her cards and has repeatedly missed good BINGOS. I can see an occasional slip (it can get busy - I work bingo at our church on occasion) but if it is a repeat occurrence I wouldn't like the even split.

I think you are just a little sour because of 2 things:

1. She ran up for the stuffed animal without asking you your opinion on the pick. Question, is this because she was overcome with winning and got caught up in the moment and forgot to ask, or is this her normal behavior and only thinks of herself? If you are friends with her, my guess is that she got caught up in the moment. She is human. I'd let this incident go as I think a friendship is more important than a stuffed animal.

2. You are on a winning streak. Girl, as a gambler you know that comes and goes. You have doubled your chances, and lately you have been the hot player. But you won't always be. If you are resentful for splitting the money than get out, but just know you cut your chances in half.

Like I said my only real concern is that if she is not a conscientious player and misses BINGOS repeatedly. That I would say abandon the deal and get out. Otherwise I would keep playing with my friend knowing that the tables will eventually turn and she will be the winning player.

 

[Lilsia]

I do the same thing with my friend. It makes it more fun when you have twice as many chances to win. Non bingo players don’t get it lol

The friend I split with has a horseshoe up her rear and she always wins. She’s had to give me WAY more than I’ve ever given her. We keep the same deal because it will all even out one day.

I love bingo, but I would never go into a deal to split the winnings with the person that I go with. That just seems weird to me, especially since it is not family. I would MAYBE do that with my sister, but no on else. I think that it is better for everyone to just play their own cards and keep their own winnings. This kind of stuff usually ends up with issues in the end. Like someone else posted, what if it is a big prize that you had to pay taxes on. I would not want to pay taxes on the whole amount when I only got half.

 

[kimblebee]

I love bingo, but I would never go into a deal to split the winnings with the person that I go with. That just seems weird to me, especially since it is not family. I would MAYBE do that with my sister, but no on else. I think that it is better for everyone to just play their own cards and keep their own winnings. This kind of stuff usually ends up with issues in the end. Like someone else posted, what if it is a big prize that you had to pay taxes on. I would not want to pay taxes on the whole amount when I only got half.

We don’t have to pay taxes on winnings so it’s a non issue.

different strokes for different folks. I don’t know what’s weird about it at all.

 

[Lilsia]

We don’t have to pay taxes on winnings so it’s a non issue.

different strokes for different folks. I don’t know what’s weird about it at all.

To me, what is weird is that a person gets into this kind of situation in the first place. It is inevitable that there will be issues and hurt feelings down the line. It is human nature.

 

[kimblebee]

To me, what is weird is that a person gets into this kind of situation in the first place. It is inevitable that there will be issues and hurt feelings down the line. It is human nature.

There’s definitely opportunity for that. The arrangement isn’t for everyone.

 

[fly girl]

To me, what is weird is that a person gets into this kind of situation in the first place. It is inevitable that there will be issues and hurt feelings down the line. It is human nature.

I disagree. It is not inevitable for everyone. And I don't think it is weird. It may not be for you, but it can work.

Like I said in my previous post, I play slots with my best friend. We split the winnings, in all of our time playing (which has been over a span of 20 years) we have never had hurt feelings or issues. We have a great time playing. I was the one who hit our huge jackpot together, but it was BOTH of our money we added to the play. I was happy we won TOGETHER!

Same with OP and bingo. If I played bingo with my bf, that's what we would do. Gambling (like bingo and slots) is luck. It will ebb and flow which one is hot and winning. And many times both will be cold and you go home with a loss.

I am not saying this is right for everyone, but it can work and it is not inevitable for issues.

 

[indimom]

OP, I think you (and your partner) are looking at this wrong.
"We" chose to play as a team. And, "We" won $1000, and "We" split the $1000 and walked away with $500 each.
You can't have it both ways choosing to play as a team, then choosing to see your wins as individual. That's bound to cause disgruntlement.

Either end the partnership (and be okay with what happens after).
Or stop seeing the game play (missing numbers) and wins as independent. Help each other play the cards and share the money without complaint (and come up with a plan for prizes that can't be split easily like stuffed animals).

 

[ronandannette]

There’s definitely opportunity for that. The arrangement isn’t for everyone.

This sort of thing can bring out the worst in people. It’s all the proverbial “fun and games” when people agree to arrangements but when the actual dollars are on the table feelings can run high.

A family member of mine and her close friend both needed a specific fee-for-service medical treatment (they met in a support group for a rare disorder they both have). They decided to do some joint fund-raising, including a huge community garage sale, applied for grants from charities, had a benefit dance and ran a go-fund-me. All was well until it came time to divvy up the proceeds, which originally were to have been split 50/50. The higher the amount rose the more acrimonious it got with hair-splitting over who did what and who was more connected to the source of the donations. It’s a crazy mess now.

As for @Dznypal complaining about the friend missing numbers, I’m a little confused. She mentioned something in the post about using bingo machines. I’ve seen those on cruise ships and they recognize the numbers for you. It’s not like playing with paper cards and markers at all.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

OOO. Sounds like someone needs some coachspeak team cliches.

There is no I in team.

Team stands for Together Everyone Wins more.

Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success.

No member of a crew is praised for the rugged individuality of his rowing.

A snowflake is one of God's lightest creations. But look what they can do when they stick together.

Consider a grain of sand. But put enough of them together and they make a beach.

 

[JaxDad]

OOO. Sounds like someone needs some coachspeak team cliches.

There is no I in team.

Team stands for Together Everyone Wins more.

Teamwork divides the task and multiplies the success.

No member of a crew is praised for the rugged individuality of his rowing.

A snowflake is one of God's lightest creations. But look what they can do when they stick together.

Consider a grain of sand. But put enough of them together and they make a beach.

 

[Cannot_Wait_4Disney]

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That's loser talk. Losers always blame someone else when in fact it isn't someone else. The OP needs winner talk.
HAHAHAHA. Took me awhile to find a cliche answer. But cliche I did. HAHAHAHAH
Oh and never go for two unless you have to. Right Sean Payton?

 

[cobright]

my friend and me go and play bingo at the local casino like once a week
weve always had this deal where whoever wins splits with the other
...
part of me wants to break our "agreement" and we just play for ourselves and the other part figures that once I do that shell win big and then there Ill sit

if the amounts were closer it wouldnt be an issue--also its the way she gets--I thought I was going to have to hose her down

its not a huge deal--I mean theres a lot worse things actually its been coming annoying

so what would you do

Oof.
If ever there were a system more guaranteed to win strife and ******* for everyone involved ... I can't imagine it.

I haven't played BINGO for real so forgive me if I get some of the particulars wrong, but I've seen it done...

If you have the sort of friendship that can handle some plain speaking, then tell her plainly that pooling your winnings has its advantages but it kind of forces you each to care too much about each other's business and playing style and so on. So how about we set one or two cards each per game that gets split between us on a win? Or agree to pool the winnings on the first and last game of the night?

If she's a sensitive soul, easy to take offense... I assume if you have an agreement to split winnings then you each play the same number of cards. Just insist on playing fewer cards each game for a few weeks. Maybe you're saving up for Christmas shopping or something, whatever. Tell her to just play any additional cards she would like off to one side and keep the winnings off those to herself. After a week or two like this, buy a few extra cards to play for a friend and, of course, keep those off to the side outside the community winnings pool.