Minnie_me
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- Feb 19, 2007
My mom passed away last week. We had the funeral this past weekend, out of town (in my hometown). My childhood friend who lives out of state donated a $75 gift certificate to a local pizzeria to my family, to help us with the stress of feeding everyone during the weekend. When I mentioned this to my brothers, they seemed greatly uninterested (and neither one of them could even remember my friend, since they're quite a bit older than I am, and one even mentioned that it seemed like a weird "gift").
We didn't end up using the gift certificate. We were there for two nights; on the first night, my aunt & uncle took us out to dinner, and on the second, we all went to an Irish pub for dinner, in honor of my mom.
We came home yesterday, and I called my friend to tell her that we ended up not using the gift certificate, and that I felt terrible about it. She said that she wasn't bothered at all, and had just wanted to make sure we were covered if we needed the meal, and that she would call the pizzeria manager and take care of it today. Since this pizzeria is not a chain, my older brother and I could not use the gc in our current towns. However, my oldest brother still lives in my hometown. And this is where the fun starts.
My oldest brother emailed my other brother and me today, saying that the pizzeria manager called him and reminded him about the gift certificate (small town, they're old friends). And NOW, my oldest brother wants it (he writes, "I don't mind telling you that I could use it"). Of course he does!! He wants to use it to get pizza for himself and his trashy garage band (a bunch of wannabes in their 50s and 60s who smoke an drink their lives away while convincing themselves that they could have been famous). He does not have a family. He has a job. He has more money than I do (a single mom with two daughters and college loans!).
This gc was given to our FAMILY by MY friend to help with food during the FUNERAL WEEKEND.
I emailed my brother back and told him that I'd already contacted my friend and that she is going to cancel the gc, but just hasn't done it yet. He emailed back and told me I was selfish, and so was my friend. The other brother, typical middle child, trying to keep the peace, wants me to relent and let him use it.
Should I really contact my friend? And if so, what the heck do I say? "Oh, don't bother canceling that gift certificate, my brother wants to use your thoughtful gift to feed his garage band."
We didn't end up using the gift certificate. We were there for two nights; on the first night, my aunt & uncle took us out to dinner, and on the second, we all went to an Irish pub for dinner, in honor of my mom.
We came home yesterday, and I called my friend to tell her that we ended up not using the gift certificate, and that I felt terrible about it. She said that she wasn't bothered at all, and had just wanted to make sure we were covered if we needed the meal, and that she would call the pizzeria manager and take care of it today. Since this pizzeria is not a chain, my older brother and I could not use the gc in our current towns. However, my oldest brother still lives in my hometown. And this is where the fun starts.
My oldest brother emailed my other brother and me today, saying that the pizzeria manager called him and reminded him about the gift certificate (small town, they're old friends). And NOW, my oldest brother wants it (he writes, "I don't mind telling you that I could use it"). Of course he does!! He wants to use it to get pizza for himself and his trashy garage band (a bunch of wannabes in their 50s and 60s who smoke an drink their lives away while convincing themselves that they could have been famous). He does not have a family. He has a job. He has more money than I do (a single mom with two daughters and college loans!).
This gc was given to our FAMILY by MY friend to help with food during the FUNERAL WEEKEND.
I emailed my brother back and told him that I'd already contacted my friend and that she is going to cancel the gc, but just hasn't done it yet. He emailed back and told me I was selfish, and so was my friend. The other brother, typical middle child, trying to keep the peace, wants me to relent and let him use it.
Should I really contact my friend? And if so, what the heck do I say? "Oh, don't bother canceling that gift certificate, my brother wants to use your thoughtful gift to feed his garage band."
