I wasn't talking about it being expensive for you. I am well aware that cost is one of the factors why many brides choose WDW as a wedding destination. It instantly trims the guest list of people like your mother's third cousin twice removed . I was speaking about your guests. It's a lot to ask guests to travel for your wedding. And even if they would have to travel anyway, between over priced WDW "resorts" and park passes WDW is a pretty expensive destination.let me elaborate a second.....my "expensive destination wedding" is actually not expensive at all. it is a fraction of what i would cost to have a "real" wedding. the disney wedding decision was intentional. intentionally to save money.
I would hope people wouldn't buy a plane ticket in hopes of a free meal, that would be pretty silly.
I think that the people that take the trouble to come would love you enough just be happy to see you getting married and also have an excuse to come to disney world. Just sayin.
If I wasn't providing my parents with a villa and yes, feeding them after our vow renewal, they wouldn't be coming.
This brings back memories - for my wedding in September I made the mistake of posting on here that my reception was optional (at HDDR) and if guests wanted to join us they were buying tickets - it resulted in a huge amount of opinions, some that were actually quite hurtful. The funny part about it was that my family and best friends were the only ones coming and they actually suggested doing this. None of my guests cared, no one got upset, no one was resentful about the fact that they paid to come to our wedding and weren't getting a free meal. They were very happy to be included in the happiest day of our lives - and for all of you saying "Yeah they didn't tell you they were upset - they THOUGHT it though, they just kept their mouths shut" - you obviously don't know my friends and family.
We all went to HDDR in our wedding finery, they DID all pay for their tickets, and we had a fantastic time!! AND we took Disney Transportation to get there - we had a blast doing it, and not one person complained or thought it was weird...in fact a few of them expressed that they would have been appalled if I had spent $500 on a motorcoach when we rode perfectly comfortably for free!
I did in the end decide to have brunch after the ceremony becasue we changed the time to 10 AM, but not because I felt the need to feed people, but because we could afford to add it in without going into debt, AND because it was the right thing to do for US. Nothing that I planned as a part of our day was due to obligation or tradition - we are who we are, and our families and friends love and respect us for it.
Do what works for you. You will learn quickly what topics to avoid posting or commenting on...sometimes you don't realize what a can of worms you are opening! It's Disney - I'm sure if you don't have a reception you will STILL have a fantastic time!!
thats so sad. im sorry your parents feel that way. but my parents gladly go where i need them. and vice versa.
As others have pointed out, you obviously weren't interested in opposing viewpoints, you were just looking for validation on your choice, which I really don't understand, since you're so certain your guests are fine with your not feeding them. So why bother with the question? Just do your thing and enjoy yourselves!
we are going to eat food people!!!!! just so you all can get the picture. we are not having a formal sit down with centerpieces. this is what i mean by reception!!!!! no one will starve! got it? good! and yes i will still be winging it..why because i feel like it.
you know I was just trying to offer you advice, but it's clear you don't want it based on this rude response. I take it you've never tried to walk up and get seated at a restaurant in a theme park with a large group during a free dining period. Feel free to wing it, but be prepared to eat counter service and have difficulty finding seats. I'm done giving advice to people who don't want to listen.