NO RECEPTION-am i normal?

[Stephie77]

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[Stephie77]

you know I was just trying to offer you advice, but it's clear you don't want it based on this rude response. I take it you've never tried to walk up and get seated at a restaurant in a theme park with a large group during a free dining period. Feel free to wing it, but be prepared to eat counter service and have difficulty finding seats. I'm done giving advice to people who don't want to listen.

Tri-state girls rock!! HAHAHAHA

 

[transfergirl]

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[disneybride219]

No better time to wing it than during Food and Wine. Food and drink stalls all over Epcot. It's the reason I'm having a Disney reception.

yeah. thats kind of what we figured. my fiance is a chef and a super foodie and he really wanted to go to the Food and Wine Fest. so what better time than that. so yeah this was the idea for the majority of the day. nighttime. will be most likely somewhere else. and it may be hard tearing my dad away from the multiple stalls!!

 

[Danibelle]

I definitely would regret not having at least cake, a toast & pictures very much! I would hit the parks after. If I were a guest and not aware of what the plans were I would be a bit.... Surprised?

That does seem a bit wierd. IMHO.

 

[transfergirl]

Originally Posted by transfergirl
No better time to wing it than during Food and Wine. Food and drink stalls all over Epcot. It's the reason I'm having a Disney reception.

yeah. thats kind of what we figured. my fiance is a chef and a super foodie and he really wanted to go to the Food and Wine Fest. so what better time than that. so yeah this was the idea for the majority of the day. nighttime. will be most likely somewhere else. and it may be hard tearing my dad away from the multiple stalls!!

I'd deleted that post, having realized I'd somehow skipped the post that you do, indeed, have a reservation. But if you feel like canceling the reservation, that's certainly a viable option where guests can purchase a la carte.

 

[LuvLuvLuv]

another thought: (take it or leave it)

if your wedding is on a weekend, or toward the end of the food and wine festival in november--it is packed and almost unbearable.

the lines for the kiosks are about 20 minutes each, there are swarms of people with no room to move about, no seating/standing room, there are people who have clearly been drinking and stumbling about all over the place (i've seen some passed out in the lawn), and you kind of wish you had a suit of armor and a helmet with you. i've been there when it's been THAT bad.

if you plan on winging it and this happens, it can be misery. we are just here to help.

 

[rigs32]

yeah. thats kind of what we figured. my fiance is a chef and a super foodie and he really wanted to go to the Food and Wine Fest. so what better time than that. so yeah this was the idea for the majority of the day. nighttime. will be most likely somewhere else. and it may be hard tearing my dad away from the multiple stalls!!



So... what restaurant do you have your reservation for? Since the Food and Wine Fest starts late Sept and you can only make ADRs 180 days out I'm not sure how you'd make a reservation at one of the Disney restaurants yet.

 

[leonix8238]

I think as long as everyone is aware of the situation it will be fine. It could be that you all run off into the park and for your 'meal' you buy everyone a pretzel or grab a burger - Weddings are very different these days and with more and more couples paying for their own weddings in such difficult financial times I can't imagine you're alone in your decision.

We were married at Disney with no guests. Once we got home we did not arrange a reception as for us this defeated the point of a destination wedding. However, we are going out for a meal with friends in the coming months (we have friends from all over so it's taken a while to get them all in one place!) Sadly we cannot afford to pay for everyone's meal or drinks but our friends do not mind and are more than happy to pay for their own, they're just happy to have the chance to celebrate with us.

I'm sure you'll all have a wonderful day whatever you do.

 

[neener3]

Wow...I've been sitting out of this one, but I'm going to offer my two cents.

You did, after all, ask for opinions. You asked "Am I normal?". And I get that you're new to the boards, but a quick look through planning journals or...anything on the board really, would have immediately answered the question that you're not. Personally, sure, I think a few people gave VERY strong opinions that you obviously didn't like. But you have to admit, you didn't take it very well, you got defensive and went crazy with the exclamation points. Really, when you ask a question in a public forum, you need to expect that people will give their honest opinions.

And people get all KINDS of crazy about weddings. And food. So when you put them together, well, BAM, you've got craziness all around.

I didn't have a reception, and nobody jumped down my throat about it, either via family or via the boards. Well there was that one aunt who said "NO dancing!? You mean...we have to stay outside and watch the fireworks...I'm going to be cold." Yeah, after we paid a kajillion dollars for the dessert party in Epcot. Yeah, she said this on the wedding day. To my face. And yup, I had explained to everyone how it was going to go. 2 newsletters. TWO! Still got it. So you might too.

So, we had a ceremony at Sea Breeze Point, and then went to Chef Mickey's for dinner. We had booked during free dining, but one aunt and uncle (guess which one???) didn't book in time, and ended up paying for the dining plan. We were asked if we were going to set up a tab for us to pay off so that everyone could drink at the restaurant. Ummmm. No. We don't really drink, unless it's a glass of wine or two, so why would we pay for everyone else to drink? Not the norm, but it's our wedding.

After dinner we had a dessert party in Epcot. I got to wear my dress because it was a private event and we paid for it. We used Disney transportation to get home, and while we could have taken a cab, we had some amazing conversations and moments in that bus line.

I get the cost factor, I really do. We're only 26, we're both paying of student loans, I don't have a full time job yet, etc. We worked to save money and have the best wedding that WE could have, because it's our day...and frankly, we didn't care what anyone else thought.

But you asked for opinions. Not only that, but you kind of broke a cardinal rule on here. We don't look for ways to break the rules at Disney on the boards. I think it's actually explicitly stated. Oh, I know your dress is short, and maybe if you posted it we could see...but it really just seems like you're out to break a rule that the rest of us have adhered to. But things can be taken the wrong way through a computer, so maybe just be wary of how you put things out there. People won't always like what you do or how you do it, so to avoid it, just don't ask. Personally, I'm more offended about the deliberately trying to bend the "No wedding dress in the park rule" than anything about food. And honestly? If I saw you and your crew in Epcot, all dressed to the nines, in a wedding dress...without an escort...I'd point you out to a CM. Because the rest of us here pinched and saved and followed the rules.

So, don't worry about the unconventional choices. It's your wedding. Nobody else's. Do it in the way that you want to! But you won't get any support here about bending the rules. Because, even if it is short? It's still going against what the rest of us adhere to.

 

[disneybride219]

So... what restaurant do you have your reservation for? Since the Food and Wine Fest starts late Sept and you can only make ADRs 180 days out I'm not sure how you'd make a reservation at one of the Disney restaurants yet.

seriously!?!?1
you are completely right. how could i have misled you?!?!? i WILL make reservations. i do not think that matters that much but if it does...i can update you and let you know when my reservations are definite and confirmed.

come on people! this is ridiculous! learn to be encouraging. or share your alternative to a reception. But do not school me on whats "right" or "wrong" for myself,my family or my friends. i would not hide behind my computer and do that, for i know none of you....
Listen....if someone wanted to ride into their wedding on a singing donkey wearing pants and got married to an apple....who am i to judge? im trying to laugh this off...but im getting slayed here for either having dinner plans or not having dinner plans. where, when and how i choose to conduct them

nor did i intend to offend sooo many with my questions on the normality of a reception. but i do like a good debate and i guess i found one without looking.

 

[Stephie77]

seriously!?!?1
you are completely right. how could i have misled you?!?!? i WILL make reservations. i do not think that matters that much but if it does...i can update you and let you know when my reservations are definite and confirmed.

come on people! this is ridiculous! learn to be encouraging. or share your alternative to a reception. But do not school me on whats "right" or "wrong" for myself,my family or my friends. i would not hide behind my computer and do that, for i know none of you....
Listen....if someone wanted to ride into their wedding on a singing donkey wearing pants and got married to an apple....who am i to judge? im trying to laugh this off...but im getting slayed here for either having dinner plans or not having dinner plans. where, when and how i choose to conduct them

nor did i intend to offend sooo many with my questions on the normality of a reception. but i do like a good debate and i guess i found one without looking.

You obviously don't get it. By YOU being nasty and acting immature, does not solve anything. Did you completely ignore what I wrote and others wrote? YOU ASKED IF YOU WERE CRAZY for not having a reception. That is not asking for an alternative. Wow. I did suggest alternatives, Dessert Party, Character Dining, talking to your planner about what is inexpensive that you can do. I don't know, you sound kind of trollish if you ask me. You seem to pick and choose who to respond to and who to attack. Anyway, I tried to help you out but you obviously are too young or immature to be adult about criticism so I am out. Good luck with your planning.

 

[PartofDisney'sWorld]

I am like peeing my pants laughing right now. we have reservations!!!!!!! i never said we didnt! what i meant....again let me explain...is that i am NOT having a formal event. dancing. music...plated dinner, centerpieces. got it yet? that whole shabang. we will be eating. all of us. but i will not be paying. my god. i wont be making people starve for crying out loud! where did this idea come from?!?! hahahaha. this is actually pretty amusing. and now im really beginning to enjoy myself......everyone takes this really seriously huh?

You might want to get your stories straight and be more specific when you post stuff....in your previous post you said you already have reservations
....

seriously!?!?1
you are completely right. how could i have misled you?!?!? i WILL make reservations. i do not think that matters that much but if it does...i can update you and let you know when my reservations are definite and confirmed.

come on people! this is ridiculous! learn to be encouraging. or share your alternative to a reception. But do not school me on whats "right" or "wrong" for myself,my family or my friends. i would not hide behind my computer and do that, for i know none of you....
Listen....if someone wanted to ride into their wedding on a singing donkey wearing pants and got married to an apple....who am i to judge? im trying to laugh this off...but im getting slayed here for either having dinner plans or not having dinner plans. where, when and how i choose to conduct them

nor did i intend to offend sooo many with my questions on the normality of a reception. but i do like a good debate and i guess i found one without looking.

....and now you are saying you will MAKE reservations....so that is why a PP wanted to know when your ressies were, because if you're wedding isn't until Food & Wine fest, you can't make ressies until 180 days out. So, I would suggest getting your stories straight before you jump down people's throats for offering advice, because you seem to keep contradicting yourself.

 

[tigger536]

And yup, I had explained to everyone how it was going to go. 2 newsletters. TWO! Still got it. So you might too.

Very off topic. But this just made me

I am having similar issues with people reading my newsletters, LOL. I get questions every day on things that were in one (or both) of them...its like, people, can you read?! LOL.

Sorry...back to topic now...

 

[MonorailPilotMulan]

I would probably do the same thing, I am having my wedding on DCL so I am given a cake celebration, but even so, I wouldnt opt for the big reception. Just not my thing

 

[sambycat]

ahhhhhh... i remember when i was young and just felt like bothering people for the sake of it...


i wish i could be a fly on the wall for some of the events that pop up now and again that people SWEAR the entire clan is all completely cool with!! i mean, i still can't understand how just by having a destination wedding, it's assumed that your guests will lose all ability to figure out how to get from point a to point b, whereas i go on vacation and figure it out pretty easy!!

and yet.....

after all the planning process and knowledge gained here and the actual experience of doing it all, i totally get what the whole "wedding" thing means to people - even super mellow, go with the flow, non-traditional folk. it is truly eye opening!!!

but when its all said and done, i'm with neener - i've earned the right to play in that DFTW sandbox, and i'm pretty protective of (even the super crazy) rules!

 

[YouNeedToGetALife]

ahhhhhh... i remember when i was young and just felt like bothering people for the sake of it...


i wish i could be a fly on the wall for some of the events that pop up now and again that people SWEAR the entire clan is all completely cool with!! i mean, i still can't understand how just by having a destination wedding, it's assumed that your guests will lose all ability to figure out how to get from point a to point b, whereas i go on vacation and figure it out pretty easy!!

and yet.....

after all the planning process and knowledge gained here and the actual experience of doing it all, i totally get what the whole "wedding" thing means to people - even super mellow, go with the flow, non-traditional folk. it is truly eye opening!!!

but when its all said and done, i'm with neener - i've earned the right to play in that DFTW sandbox, and i'm pretty protective of (even the super crazy) rules!

OK so first of all - you all need to take a step back and look at yourselves. You are sitting here debating about rules and what should be and shouldn’t be.

Seriously who cares??? If you take personal offense to the rules at Disney then you need to take a look at the priorities in your life. Disney and its security staff will be able to handle what’s allowed and what’s not.

I am attending this wedding. Am I traveling far? Yes. Am I going there to be fed? NO

I’m going there to see the moment of someone very special to me getting married .. that is it. Why does it matter is they are going to feed me????

Why would I need to be told ahead of time on a piece of paper that I need to feed myself? Considering most people will have food plans that seems like a waste to me.

I have read all 6 pages of this board and it is disgusting that you all can sit back and say what you think is right and call anyone cheap because there is no reception.

Yes a few of you offered alternatives - but I said FEW. Many of you sat in front of your computer and passed judgment and criticized her for her decisions.

You all seem like a bunch of pretentious people who think your so special that you had a wedding in Disney .. blah blah blah

Who cares? Its a wedding .. its am exchange of vows... best moment of someone’s life. Anyone who takes offense to someone wanted to wear their dress into the park (not knowing any better) needs to take a look at themselves .. there are much more important things in life to waste your negative energy on.

Now I cant wait to see all of the replies to this .. since you all don’t have a life but to sit around and judge people. Go for it .. I cant wait

 

[Mindyjoy]

LOL ... I'm assuming this is the original poster.

Anyway, go back and read the title of the thread. The OP asked a question on a public forum and, SURPRISE, she got a bunch of responses/opinions.

The internet isn't a place to go if you get your feelings hurt easily.

I hope you have a beatiful wedding and it's everything you've dreamed of.

 

[YouNeedToGetALife]

LOL ... I'm assuming this is the original poster.

Anyway, go back and read the title of the thread. The OP asked a question on a public forum and, SURPRISE, she got a bunch of responses/opinions.

The internet isn't a place to go if you get your feelings hurt easily.

I hope you have a beatiful wedding and it's everything you've dreamed of.

Nope this isnt the original poster. I assure you.

I have looked at these postings with an open mind.

There have been some nice comments and positive comments.

But there have been WAY too many negative comments that just dont make sense to me.

Yes she should expect many different answers and opinions - but my feeling is - if your going to pass judgement or be negative then dont say it.

Now all she has been doing is defending herself .. which it shouldnt at this point.

 

[sambycat]

Now all she has been doing is defending herself .. which it shouldnt at this point.

actually the OP has been at least as snarky as anyone else if not more so - WINNING!!

But seriously, you all enjoy yourselves and have an awesome time! Clearly you are very secure in your plans which will probably be great!! Soooo wait, why were you all seeking opinions again??


Oh yeah WINNING!