SaraJayne
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- Mar 6, 2009
As a society, we've become so polarized (and self-involved) that any opinion that differs from our own is now considered an "attack".
Totally agree.
As a society, we've become so polarized (and self-involved) that any opinion that differs from our own is now considered an "attack".
Art 1 said:Don't know you, haven't followed your posts other than to know that you moved. You mentioned you were going to stop posting or post under another name. I forget which. If that's what your going to do then do it and move along.
Again, I mean no ill will. If you want to leave or post under another name, just do it.
I haven't read any of the OP's past threads, but I understand what she's talking about regarding these boards. There are certain posters here who seem to relish finding any inconsistency in posted information and pouncing on it. They'll do multiple quotes and post links to past threads just to prove how right (and superior) they are.
Those types of posts go beyond simply disagreeing or giving an opinion that the OP might not like. It's mean-spirited and nasty. It makes me wonder how people can have so little going on in their own lives that they can put so much energy into keeping track of anonymous posters on a message board.
SpecialK said:There are certain posters here who seem to relish finding any inconsistency in posted information and pouncing on it. They'll do multiple quotes and post links to past threads just to prove how right (and superior) they are.
Probably because people with this type of personality have no real friends, so they come here to interact.
Probably because people with this type of personality have no real friends, so they come here to interact.
It's so funny to me that you would say that, because I was just now thinking it was actually the reverse of that! It just shows how differently people can see the same situation, I guess.
Some people don't take the internet seriously enough to be upset or offended by what strangers on there say to them. They have real life friends, and they have Internet friends/acquaintances, and they know the two are not the same at all. They don't get overly emotionally invested in online interactions simply because they know those interactions don't matter any more once they turn off the computer. They don't take disagreement or criticism personally on a message board because they know how impersonal it all really is.
Then there are the people who do cry over criticism or disagreements online, and they seem to take it all much more personally than the other posters do. They come onto a board and post incredibly personal things and get upset when people have differing opinions or don't seem to like them. If someone has a fulfilling real life, and actual real life friends, I don't understand why they would get so wrapped up in casual online interactions. I don't understand why they would care so much about the differing opinions of people they don't even know.
The ones with no real friends are the ones who start a thread with, "I have nobody I can talk to about this ....".
No the ones with no real friends are the ones who have all the time to devote to pulling up past posts and quoting them to prove a point. No one wants to be around someone like this. The ones who say I have no one to talk to about this, may not want their real life friends to know what is going on. IMHO.
What is the point of a discussion forum if you can't discuss anything?I also think we have become so self absorbed that we forget the good rule mom taught us. If you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all. I don't mean not expressing what your view but many of the other comments that people say.
Then they are not real friends. A true friend will be there not matter what you have to tell them. If you are embarrassed to tell your friends things or you do not want to hear what they say then you are not a true friend either.
What is the point of a discussion forum if you can't discuss anything?
Would you really spend any time on a forum where every thread was: "gee, I like Disney." "Me too." "Me too." "Me too." "Me too." ??
By the very definition of discussion, different viewpoints MUST be presented, otherwise it's not a discussion, it's a fan magazine.
Instead of "if you don't have anything nice to say don't say anything at all," perhaps a better phrase would be "don't post opinions or information for the public to see if you aren't prepared to defend them." No one has the right to not be offended by something. And freedom of speech does not entail freedom from criticism.
There are some good, some bad and some just plain crazy people on the dis. I remember very early in my posting days I participated in a thread about letting your kids spend some time away from parents at WDW. I posted about what we had done with our kids and one person quoted me and told me that I was a bad mom. She didn't say she didn't think what I had done was a bad idea, she told me I was a BAD MOM.
Now, them's some fightin' words in my book. I thought that was a pretty low blow to tell someone that they are a bad mom because they had allowed their children to go on a couple rides without mom and dad. However, I realize that this person does not know me, and really had no idea what kind of parent I am. I did not take her judgement personally. You just can't allow random people on the internet to hurt your feelings. I don't know if anything ever happened to that poster because in my mind, that WAS a personal attack.
It's been a few years now and I have to laugh because there is a thread talking about letting your kids have some freedom at WDW right now on the theme park page. Guess who still is preaching against it? On the plus side, I didn't notice her calling anyone a bad parent.