Goldilocks07
A rockin' mom and her sweet princess
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- Nov 19, 2007
I am about to be a single parent, and my DD asks REGULARLLY for a sibling. It breaks my heart. It is the sole reason I considered staying with my STBX. He wanted more children, I wanted OUT. I knew that by having a second child I would seal my miserable fate and slowly lose my mind, heart and soul. Painfully, I chose not to have a second child because I knew I didn't love my STBX and wanted, at some point, a divorce.
It breaks my heart into pieces every time she asks me. I feel such guilt. My DD is a bright, caring and gentle child, she's always been the mothering type- always shares, takes her time with little children, loves babies. She is not the "play by herself happy single" type of child. The teachers always place classmates that need a little help (physically, mentally) with her because she's so patient and kind and thoughtful- and helpful. She really deserves a sibling, and I feel terrible not providing her with one, and myself a second child. I would like one as well. But her to grow up a single child pains me. I just don't have experience with that.
In your experience, how have you dealt with the anguish of telling a 5 year old that you are not giving them a sibling?
FYI, I'm 40 years old, and in the process of divorcing my husband. We've slept separately since last August.
Thank you.
It breaks my heart into pieces every time she asks me. I feel such guilt. My DD is a bright, caring and gentle child, she's always been the mothering type- always shares, takes her time with little children, loves babies. She is not the "play by herself happy single" type of child. The teachers always place classmates that need a little help (physically, mentally) with her because she's so patient and kind and thoughtful- and helpful. She really deserves a sibling, and I feel terrible not providing her with one, and myself a second child. I would like one as well. But her to grow up a single child pains me. I just don't have experience with that.
In your experience, how have you dealt with the anguish of telling a 5 year old that you are not giving them a sibling?
FYI, I'm 40 years old, and in the process of divorcing my husband. We've slept separately since last August.
Thank you.