Yeah.. 11 and 13 year old cars, hair cut once a year, no cable, 5 year old cell phone, eat out once every 2 months, learn to DIY every portion of home ownership (including electric and plumbing), repair own car when possible -- on the bright side, because of those things, we worked up house by house to own a 2100sq ft home on 2 acres with a big creek with no rear neighbors, good school district, each of 3 kids are able to do 1 extracurricular activity (karate, violin, swimming, etc), food on the table without worry, various small weekend trips throughout the year, and we were able to do a Disney trip for them in Feb, if we are lucky, be back in 2022, but we shall see what the future brings.
So frugality and hump busting paid off in what I consider the more important things. I'm just working part time because child care is out of budget, but things may be a little easier in the future if I return to full time as the kids age. Would be nice to be able to set money aside for my kids college or weddings. Can't have it all, and we jump through hoops every month to keep monthly budget costs down, but not falling for a lot of targeted consumer marketing has helped us, even though it's sometimes hard to not feel kind of bad about myself around other moms in their shiny late model SUVs and fancy purses -- but always have to remind myself that we all pick our priorities in life and make do with what we have. I could buy a nicer car if I didn't have kids, but I'd rather have the kids. I also cut out a lot of social media because it tends to become a big comparison circle jerk (pardon the coarse terminology...) and is not mentally helpful. It is often hard, always exhausting, but overall we are fortunate... my kids are smart, in good health, roof over our heads, cars go from point A to point B... even though I can't afford to pay for FPs or dessert parties...
(Holy off topic off the rails, sorry)