When was the last time someone really upset you

[Pea-n-Me]

For me it was yesterday. A police officer on traffic duty stuck his head practically in my window and yelled right in my face. He asked very sarcastically why I'd done something, and when I explained why, he backed off and said, "Ok, have a good day, then".

I wondered if he would've done the same thing to my husband. I doubt it. Anyway, it upset me so much, the tears started flowing after we drove away. (I've been under a lot of stress lately, I think it was kind of like the straw that broke the camel's back.)

I told my daughter, who was in the passenger seat, to use it as a lesson about watching how you talk to people; to strive to treat everyone like it could be your own family member. (Maybe he talks this way to his family member, idk. But not very nice, regardless!)

 

[Bianca and Bernard]

My sister-in-law, yesterday.

There's a whole backstory there, but she made a comment to DH yesterday via text...and it upset him so bad. I wanted to drive up to where they are and rip her eyes from her sockets. He is no longer speaking to her, or her kids, about anything other than his mother; and once MIL passes away, he's washing his hands of his whole family. Every last one.

We need another bad MIL/IL thread, lol. I can't complain on reddit anymore; the jnmil subreddit is toxic right now, and has been since October.

 

[wenrob]

My sister a few months ago. She pretty much took her issues out on me and said very nasty things. I think she counts on the fact I would never abandon her but it hurt me deeply and has (at least for me) changed our relationship forever.

 

[Mrs.Milo]

Epcot American Garden Theater May 4th, Herman’s Hermits concert. While waiting for the concert, the lady on the bench behind us stuck her bare feet up on the top of the bench between DH and me. DH asked her to please not. About 10 minutes later she had them up again, this time pressing flat against the back of the bench. It was very irritating! But the concert was wonderful and ended our day on a great note.

 

[`OhanaHare]

Epcot American Garden Theater May 4th, Herman’s Hermits concert. While waiting for the concert, the lady on the bench behind us stuck her bare feet up on the top of the bench between DH and me. DH asked her to please not. About 10 minutes later she had them up again, this time pressing flat against the back of the bench. It was very irritating! But the concert was wonderful and ended our day on a great note.

 

[Cindy's Mom]

about a minute ago on a different thread.

kidding people....its a joke. /s

 

[IzzyBelle]

Last week. My brother told my mother that he can't handle talking to me anymore because I have cancer.

 

[Pea-n-Me]

Last week. My brother told my mother that he can't handle talking to me anymore because I have cancer.

That sucks! I had that happen w a few people when I had it, too. I guess it makes some people uncomfortable. (Thankfully, rarely.) I didn’t mind it for myself so much, although it also altered some relationships for me, too, but when my daughter didn’t get invited to a party w all the girls in her class because the Mom’s not comfortable with my having cancer, then it’s

 

[MIGrandma]

A few weeks ago my best friend of about 50 years said something in an e-mail, saying she hoped I had “come to my senses” over something political. I can’t go into details here, but I expressed my views to her again and said we maybe should go back to not discussing religion or politics with each other as we have completely opposite views on them. It hurt, but just because we don’t see eye to eye I would never tell her what she told me.

 

[hereyago]

A couple months ago, ex husband and his no self esteem wife.
My ex has no self control and stuff blurts out like mouth diarrhea but he also did something that affect dgd and I am the wrong one to put up with that.
So we have nothing to do with them.

 

[paisleys]

Wow, some of these are heartbreaking especially you, ((( Izzybelle)))

I think I am menopausal, not sure but everything lately..ugh. Last week I went to TJ Maxx. I was in a great mood until the cashier asked me if I wanted to use my 55+ and up discount (I am 50). I know my family is planning another reunion I am not invited to this coming weekend. I'm ok with not going I just hate how they are secretive about it and probably will send me pictures of them all together (like they did for the last one 3 years ago).
My kids have been on a sports team for three years. I know everyone thinks their kids are perfect but I know mine are very sweet kids. They are humble and quiet and kind to everyone. They, along with their friend, were not invited to sports camp with the other group of girls. They have been keeping it a secret from us and our kids. I thought I was friends with one of the moms but she's the one who made sure we were kept out of the loop. Our kids are the same ages and have the same goals, so I'm a bit hurt. Luckily my kids don't care. They have SO much more self confidence than me.

 

[Pink Partridge]

Wow, some of these are heartbreaking especially you, ((( Izzybelle)))

I think I am menopausal, not sure but everything lately..ugh. Last week I went to TJ Maxx. I was in a great mood until the cashier asked me if I wanted to use my 55+ and up discount (I am 50). I know my family is planning another reunion I am not invited to this coming weekend. I'm ok with not going I just hate how they are secretive about it and probably will send me pictures of them all together (like they did for the last one 3 years ago).
My kids have been on a sports team for three years. I know everyone thinks their kids are perfect but I know mine are very sweet kids. They are humble and quiet and kind to everyone. They, along with their friend, were not invited to sports camp with the other group of girls. They have been keeping it a secret from us and our kids. I thought I was friends with one of the moms but she's the one who made sure we were kept out of the loop. Our kids are the same ages and have the same goals, so I'm a bit hurt. Luckily my kids don't care. They have SO much more self confidence than me.

Don't blame this on you being menopausal! You are dealing with some awful people.

Your family is having a reunion without you...again? And they send pictures after not inviting you? What is wrong with them? I would cut ties.

And the people planning to go to camps and excluding your kids are probably the same people that preach kindness to all/no bullying.



I would ask them (nicely)-- "Hey, is there a reason why you are excluding my children?" And then stand there calmly and watch them squirm.

 

[Pink Partridge]

Last week. My brother told my mother that he can't handle talking to me anymore because I have cancer.

My MIL is ill and her one daughter can't visit her "because it hurts too much". No. She is just a lazy and selfish piece of garbage who will be the first in line when the estate is divided.

 

[tazdev3225]

My DIL and even though the incident was a year ago it has put a horrible strain on my relationship with my son.

My husband had 2 strokes in the space of a month 2 years ago and my kids don't understand how it has changed him. Last august, thinking he was giving me a break, he called my DIL to take him to his dr.'s appointment. I knew NOTHING about it because he made the appointment without mentioning it to me. She took him and then called me and let loose with a string of profanity on how I am a horrible wife. Enough is enough and I gave it right back to her.

My son and husband had a long standing policy of football Sundays at my son's house and because of my DIL we were not invited once this past year. My grandson is playing baseball this year and I barely talked to my son at the games. My son's birthday is this week and no mention of his annual BBQ even after I offered him a case of free hamburger and hot dog rolls, which he declined. It just rubbed more salt in the open wound.

 

[Kathryn Merteuil]

I know it is pretty minor, but we are on vacation so all this family togetherness is upsetting me. Specifically the way my older stepdaughter is acting.

One Example: Her younger sister called her a name (yea it was *****) because when we were unloading she just got out of the SUV and walked off, didn't even pretend to help. It was the biggest blowup you could imagine. (the thing is I heard her calling her younger sister that same word at least 10X earlier) If somebody does it back to her, OMG it is a huge deal. One of those "dish it out but can't take it" deals.

I keep telling myself "keep your mouth shut, It's only a few more days".

 

[Snowflakey]

For me it was yesterday. A police officer on traffic duty stuck his head practically in my window and yelled right in my face. He asked very sarcastically why I'd done something, and when I explained why, he backed off and said, "Ok, have a good day, then".

I wondered if he would've done the same thing to my husband. I doubt it. Anyway, it upset me so much, the tears started flowing after we drove away. (I've been under a lot of stress lately, I think it was kind of like the straw that broke the camel's back.)

I told my daughter, who was in the passenger seat, to use it as a lesson about watching how you talk to people; to strive to treat everyone like it could be your own family member. (Maybe he talks this way to his family member, idk. But not very nice, regardless!)

Sorry this happened however as a mother of a 22 year old female police officer this hits home. Police have a hard job. They put themselves in harms way every single day they show up to work. Do you realize, if every single police officer talked in a calm, quiet manner no one would take them seriously. They need to be in control. I respect each and every one of them and thank all of them for protecting us each and every day.

 

[Pink Partridge]

For me it was yesterday. A police officer on traffic duty stuck his head practically in my window and yelled right in my face. He asked very sarcastically why I'd done something...

Absolutely inappropriate and unprofessional. I would report that, and I am a great supporter of good police officers. Good police officers do not lack control or professionalism.

 

[Pink Partridge]

They need to be in control.

Yes they do. The above officer was out of control.

 

[Snowflakey]

Yes they do. The above officer was out of control.

Maybe, maybe not. I have a friend whose normal voice comes across as loud and rather angry. You weren't present to say he was "out of control"

 

[scrhsa]

Sunday. My dd has made a decision that has upset me. I won't go into details but it does break my heart. But she is an adult and gets to make her own decisions. She is a great young woman and will grow and change and morph for many years to come. I just need to make myself understand that She is the baby so it's been a bit harder with her All I can do it make sure she knows I love her and will be there for her no matter what. Wow, this all sounds like a huge major life thing. Well, for us it is but for most probably not.