Lilsia
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- Feb 17, 2018
For me anyway, there always seem to be a "but". Some of us couldn't BF. Some of us chose not to. No matter what, we don't need it thrown down our throats. We chose what was best at the time.....for US. I truly feel that it is shaming and/or judging when the comeback is always "but" breast fed is best. I hate when people use the bonding excuse. My gosh, if you can only bond breastfeeding then there is something more going on.
I don't use the stupid bonding excuse. That is a bunch of crock. The "but" that you highlighted has nothing to do with your feeling on being "shamed". It has everything to do with the fact the breast milk is the best food for babies. Are you denying that? Do you believe that formula is an exact replica of breast milk or is it as close as we can get? Because that is all that I am saying. But some keep trying to go back to making it about shaming and guilt for some reason. All of this other stuff about "shaming" is on you. No one can make you feel ashamed when you know that you are doing what is right for yourself and your baby. Listen, I did the best that I could with my kids. My oldest would not latch on and I pumped for almost 4 months until I got pregnant again and my mild dried up. My second nursed up until she turned 3 months and then all of a sudden just refused to nurse anymore so we switched to a bottle. I never shame anyone for using formula and everyone has different issues as to why they can not nurse. There is nothing wrong with getting the information out there that breast milk is by far the best food for a baby, but if you can't, there is nothing wrong with formula. I think that everyone should at least try to nurse or pump off the colostrum for the baby's benefit if they can. We need to stop with accusing people of "shaming" just because they have a different opinion. I never said or implied that anyone is a bad mom for using formula. If you have guilt about it, that is on you and not on anyone else. But I sure as heck feel no guilt about giving my baby formula when I had to. But I can also acknowledge that it is not the same as breast milk.