TammyLynn33
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Oct 8, 2008
***** warning for any newbies or casual followers of this thread, you might want to just skip past this post, not related to the hunt AT all but I consider this group of DISers my family*****
I'm going to veer waaaaaay off topic here but I've been hinting over the last few days that I was at the point in my life that I'm able to share what's going on in our family that has affected how much I've been able to post and interact here since April. HUGE shout out to both @bababear_50 & @ottawamom who've been picking up the slack in this and the other AM threads to answer questions when I've been unable to concentrate, they've been a big support to me and I can't express enough gratitude.
I've created a "hidden spoiler" so if you're rather not read our family's COVID-19 disaster movie plotline don't click on it !
The day after the last shutdown in Ontario in April, our daughter's wife left her. Simply said while they were cooking supper that she didn't think they should be together, put her knife down and walked out of the house. No warning, from zero to I'm done out of the blue, everyone who hears is completely shocked. Any pushing for an explanation just led to more heartache and brutally cruel words that ranged from I wish we never met to if i spend one more minute with you I'll suffocate. SO there we were, in the middle of a global pandemic needing to pick up the pieces, find a lawyer, pack up & sell the house they bought less than a year ago (luckily they sold it for over 2K more than they paid even after the mortgage penalty pay out WOAH!), find an apartment (poor kid is in one so small you'd think it was a dorm!) for our daughter and the cat who was also left behind (that actually belongs to her still-wife because she doesn't want a divorce, costs more URGH!) all while everything in the province was locked down. I also hadn't even been cleared to start my treatments yet because I wasn't vaccinated so was in the depths of my own depression already!
SO there you go, why some of my grocery bills have been STUPID high, why I don't care how much things cost & if I even earn a single mile on anything I buy, why i celebrate tiny earnings and why I've been less than helpful in the hunt. If someone wants something for comfort we have the luxury of just buying it. You want frozen dinners that cost close to $6 and can only stomach 2 bites? On my way to the grocery store! You want ice cream at 2 am? Perfect Shell has an offer for 5 miles, off i go! You're worried that you'll be losing Disney+ because you're scared she'll cut that off too? FINE, I can do that thru the portal and earn 100 miles (they posted within 24 hours BTW and I've binged the entire Marvel Universe movies TWICE since then, we've watched a ton of old school movies, been a comfort for me!) This is also one of the reasons we're not considering going anywhere too far until 2023, we need to be close if we're needed. This has rocked our baby's world, 11 years of her life, simply gone. Yeah, she's 32 but still my baby!
SO -- if anyone out there is struggling in your relationships can I ask you to please speak to each other? Reach out for professional help if you need it, don't let things fester until one of you snaps. While our daughter is slowly realizing that they might not have been the best fit, discussing things at some point might have led to a mutual decision and perhaps not buying a house and getting a puppy (that ended up so ill she needed to be rehomed)to try and fix how *she-who-shall-not-be-named* was feeling!
I am so sorry to your daughter and you. The stress of the whole pandemic has made a lot of people just change . So so sorry. So happy for her she has you , having her back and mental health in mind . That is priceless Mama, good job . ( I wish my mom had been alive for my many dramas )
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