I have been married for 15 yrs on Thursday. Our marriage has been full of ups and downs. The last yr has been mostly downs. I suspected an EA which he denies! However, I caught him in too many lies for this relationship to purely plantonic. Anyway, that relationship ended as soon as I spoke of my fears and suspisions.
However, ever since then(like 8-10 mos). He has been more of a roomate than a husband. Sex which was never a problem in the past..is seldom..and I am usually the agressor(which is definiately different!!) He spends most of his free time with the kids(16,10,8). When we do go out alone..it seems like we have to struggle to keep a conversation going unless It concerns the children. He does NOT want to communicate about anything. He is verbally abusive 75% of the time to me..infront of the children. Which frightens me..because I don't want my sons to think this is acceptable behavior or my daughter to think that it is OK to be treated like that.
I never know if MR.Nice Husband or Mr. Mean husband is coming home. He says nothing is wrong..but actions speak louder than words. He sleeps in our bed about 25% of the time.
Our 15th Anniversay is Thursday and he scheduled soccer practice until 730 pm! He is the coach! We talked about going away for the weekend and then he remembered he has a soccer clinic he didn't want to miss. I tried to no LB(love bust..or in other words..create trouble), and I said no problem. But talking today..he said..he probably won't even go. But it is too late to go anywhere now..so I just forget it! I am only 34..and keep wondering...am i wasting my time and my life?
However, ever since then(like 8-10 mos). He has been more of a roomate than a husband. Sex which was never a problem in the past..is seldom..and I am usually the agressor(which is definiately different!!) He spends most of his free time with the kids(16,10,8). When we do go out alone..it seems like we have to struggle to keep a conversation going unless It concerns the children. He does NOT want to communicate about anything. He is verbally abusive 75% of the time to me..infront of the children. Which frightens me..because I don't want my sons to think this is acceptable behavior or my daughter to think that it is OK to be treated like that.
I never know if MR.Nice Husband or Mr. Mean husband is coming home. He says nothing is wrong..but actions speak louder than words. He sleeps in our bed about 25% of the time.
Our 15th Anniversay is Thursday and he scheduled soccer practice until 730 pm! He is the coach! We talked about going away for the weekend and then he remembered he has a soccer clinic he didn't want to miss. I tried to no LB(love bust..or in other words..create trouble), and I said no problem. But talking today..he said..he probably won't even go. But it is too late to go anywhere now..so I just forget it! I am only 34..and keep wondering...am i wasting my time and my life?