I have some good news, or potentially disastrous news... I booked a flight to where my wife is so that I can drive her and the dogs 19 hours home.
It’s potentially good because I might get my wife, dogs and life back.
It’s potentially bad because she’s already threatened to leave the dogs and not stay.
On the good hand
she’s told me it’s ok to book a reservation at Disney for thanksgiving dinner
On the bad hand, I’m seriously scared that I’m getting my hopes up for no good reason.
While your responses have been great, I very much regret the fact that most people on this board either don’t like me or think I’m a “troll”
When you’re in a panic, as I am, the more people there are to “put to in your place,” the better.
If anyone is watching this thread and doesn’t believe it, I’ll send a screenshot of my flight info.
Fine. I'll tell you how the cow ate the cabbage, as folks say around my parts.
I know that sometimes people don't come across the way they intend to in writing - especially in a forum like this, so I'm willing to give you the benefit of the doubt. To a point. Because if your story is genuine, you
must get some professional help; all the kindness of strangers here, and anywhere else on the Internet is not going to fix what is wrong in your world. For that, you need a licensed, skilled therapist. We have all offered you ideas on where and how to get the assistance you need to help you with your mental health issues, but no one here can do much more until you haul your *** to the doctor. So, do it. I expect to see a reply from you no later than Monday that tells me when your evaluation appointment is with your new therapist. Period.
Having said all that, here is what I think you need to think about before you go flying off to retrieve her, based on what you wrote and nothing more.
She has already told you she will leave you and the dogs once you are back in Florida, right?
So, go get the dogs - and her if she willing to come to your home - and get on with your life. You must now live your life FOR YOU, and act as if she is only a visitor in your life - because that's what she has told you.
Don't get your hopes up, because she is telling you that after Thanksgiving, she is gone. No amount of magical thinking, or wishing or praying will change the outcome unless she decides for it to. Accept that she is there temporarily.
I don't know anything about your relationship with her - and I don't need to; it's none of my business, and not really important to the advice I'm giving you. You need to hear what she is telling you,
and accept it. The fact that she is willing to allow you to bring your dogs home is great, as is the fact that she wants to have Thanksgiving at WDW - but she is sending you a clear signal that she doesn't intend to stay.
What you do next is important to your recovery.
You can choose to fly there and allow yourself to believe that this is a fresh start and everything will somehow magically be OK, or you can choose to accept what she is saying, and be happy that you have your dogs, you have a home in Florida, and you have the ability to get yourself back on track.
I don't know what your life goals are; I don't know much about you, and I don't need to. It's not my place. But I do know this - from personal experience with depression: Nothing changes until you do. You are the only person who can "fix" yourself, and part of that is talking to a professional, and being able to keep moving forward, with or without your wife.
I think you are an intelligent person - and I think you are also in pain. Whatever form that may take - depression or otherwise, I sincerely hope you get the help you need, because I know that things do get better.
But live in reality. Leave the fantasy at Disney World. Get up off the couch, get the help you need, and go on down the road - and be happy with yourself.
And good luck.