I like that phrase.or “family grieving privately.”
In my world, more and more people are choosing cremation. When I was younger, I knew literally no one who went that direction.and then a cremation
It's sensible. Consider the decisions /costs you avoid: no plot, no casket, no vault, no headstone, no choosing clothing, no need to hurry and hold the memorial.
My husband and I agreed that as soon as we retired, we'd make our plans. We thought it'd be easier to do while we're both still (relatively for him) healthy /can think of these plans as years and years down the road.
That's all so sensible.At the top, underlined and with three exclamation marks: NO PUBLICITY. Followed by "no autopsy, it won't bring me back to life" "No embalming" "No services, unless you want graveside services just for your family".
My state has a law about mandatory cremation if you're under a certain age -- upper 50s? -- and the cause of death isn't completely obvious. I dislike that very much. Do they force the family to pay? I really don't know.There may be no choice about an autopsy. In Ireland when the cause of death is unknown, and in certain other circumstances, the Coroner is obliged by law to order a post-mortem. The next of kin are not required to give permission or prevent the autopsy.
Yeah, well, coroners are doctors, and the procedure would take several hours. That sounds about right.I just checked the coroner's website and the fee for an autopsy is now $3,000!
Yeah, my mom just did this for herself. I think they call it pre-need.I think a lot of elderly people pre-pay for their funeral expenses not just to make it easier on their families, but because the cost can be part of a Medicaid spend down.
https://www.elderlawanswers.com/usi...tract-to-spend-down-assets-for-medicaid-16240
I've heard -- and my husband and I intend to do this -- it's smartest to write down your plans, even choose vendors you'd want your family to use. BUT to keep your money in a private account, lest the funeral home go out of business.