My kids are 10 & 11. Every summer we have free movies in the mall during the week. This year my daughter is begging to go alone, just with her friends. Well, since I have to drive, just what am I supposed to do for 2-3 hours, anyways? She wants me to drop them off, then she will call when the movie's over to pick them up. Well, that's what I used to do at that age, even younger, about 9 or so, my mother would drop us off at the movies, then I'd call when it was over.
We live in a different world now. I just don't feel right dropping my daughter and a group of girls all about age 10 or so at the mall, then pick them up when they call. I told daughter, sorry, for this summer, I will still chaperone. So daughter asked if I would at least not sit with them! Ok, I understand, she want's to be independent, mother cramps her style, I can do that, just sit in another part of the theatre, but they will still be under my supervision.
Same as riding her bike to the park and pool. Ok, she can do so, but I follow in the car and wait with her at park/pool. My husband says I'm too protective, but I say better safe than sorry. Its not that I don't trust daughter, just I know what the world's like a little better than she does.
So, how do the rest of you handle such things? Am I too protective? I also have myself to think of, it is partly selfish, I'm simply too worried when she's unsupervised for long periods of time. she's still my baby, I'd rather spend the time with her than apart and worrying.
We live in a different world now. I just don't feel right dropping my daughter and a group of girls all about age 10 or so at the mall, then pick them up when they call. I told daughter, sorry, for this summer, I will still chaperone. So daughter asked if I would at least not sit with them! Ok, I understand, she want's to be independent, mother cramps her style, I can do that, just sit in another part of the theatre, but they will still be under my supervision.
Same as riding her bike to the park and pool. Ok, she can do so, but I follow in the car and wait with her at park/pool. My husband says I'm too protective, but I say better safe than sorry. Its not that I don't trust daughter, just I know what the world's like a little better than she does.
So, how do the rest of you handle such things? Am I too protective? I also have myself to think of, it is partly selfish, I'm simply too worried when she's unsupervised for long periods of time. she's still my baby, I'd rather spend the time with her than apart and worrying.