Thank you and yes it wouldn’t matter it was.. if it were Hawaii or Europe. The destination of 15 years once or twice a year with ex and then continued with new partner is a tough spot to be in.. it just happens to be DisneyWorld in my case. The place of fun and magic and happy. Because he is a shared DVC holder every other year with his ex wife then it is understandable why that is were the vacations are.. Financial reasons for sure.. it’s paid into so needs to be used.. plus he was and is a huge Disney person and so was his ex. Don’t get me wrong I like Disney and always has but I’m not the the same level of enthusiast and maybe because I’ve never been to get that Disney magic feeling yet. Either way I know this trip will happen and his kids love Disney as well.. it is the only vacation spot they have gone to since birth. Now I will say my bf has not experienced everything at the Star Wars section (Hollywood Studios?, forgive me if I’m wrong about location). He is a huge fan of Star Wars so I will focus on making new memories in that area. Thank you for understanding my point of view and this thread has made me look at many other areas to focus on and what to do to try to redirect any insecurity. I am going to not focus on all the memories he has shared his his ex and won’t take away any of the remarks the kids will say about their mother about Disney or memory talk of past family experiences.. They are not in any doing it to be mean.. I’ve always made our home a free conversation place of any topic including their mother and anything past. I shouldn’t expect anything different on vacation. I am just hoping for at least one day free of past memory conversation on my 1st family vacation with them.. I should add my children are a little older and never talk about their other home with their father and step mother.. so I don’t worry about them in that way.. lolWhat a tough place to be in. I completely understand why you would feel the way you do, and really this has nothing to do with Disney. It doesn't matter how great it could be or that you haven't been there before or that there are additional things your SO can do there with you and his kids that he hasn't done before, the destination associated with these types of memories could be anywhere else and you would be validated to have the feelings you have. Everyone is allowed to feel insecure and off balance about aspects of their life and I completely understand why you're feeling the way you are. I cannot imagine how hard it is to be a stepparent. Your SO might not be the emotional resource you need to help you through this specific issue right now (sounds like he has some of his own baggage to unpack around his past relationship), but you should one hundred percent talk this through with the people who are close and supportive to you.
Hopefully you'll find a place outside of Disney that you can create special memories with your SO and his children that are specific to you. That doesn't take away from their memories at Disney and any new experiences you can have with them, but I completely understand where you're coming from and think that it will be good for you to have things that are only specific to you and your relationships.
Hugs to you and hope you have a good time.