I'm kinda laughing at the idea of describing someone who is 21 (roughly) and a junior in college is deemed by her parents that's she's finally mature enough for a vehicle.
Note that you're focusing in on one reason out of several /are pretending that it was the sole reason.
When the child in question was 16, no, she wasn't all that mature. She was never a wild or bad kid in any way -- but she was only 16. We provided a third family car that she could use as a junior /senior in high school. During high school we limited when /where she could drive (for example, we didn't let her drive after dark for a while). When she came home from college, she still had access to that third-family car -- and her only restriction was that she had to share the car with a younger sibling.
When she went away to college at 18 she wasn't 'specially immature, but she also wasn't really a full-fledged adult. Our larger reasons for NOT providing her with a personal car were that 1) dorm students don't really need cars. 2) cars on campus are really expensive. At the same time, though, we also didn't want her to need to deal with car-problems such as flat tires, etc. two hours away from home.
Those circumstances changed when, as a junior, she needed to drive to various locations for nursing clinicals. Yes, she was 20 at that point and much more mature than she had been at 16. Also, as I said earlier, we wanted to wait to buy her a car because we wanted her to graduate with a car that would last well into her first job.
If you see a problem with that progression of car-provision, you see something I don't.
Partying my goodness that's been going on since the darn dawn of time the horror! That does not mean you aren't mature.
Who said our decisions were made because of partying?
Just for the record, my kids are not lazy, irresponsible or ungrateful either.
And as far as the parents providing that's the sort of thing I"m talking about when it comes to the opportunity to grow. You cannot hold everything over someone as a means of control. You're a junior in college and being told by your parents that you're mature enough for a newer car. At that age you should be making these sorts of decisions yourself you also should also have been given the opportunity to provide for yourself too. So many people complain about the youths of today.
Now if you're at the 17/18 age bubble I can totally see more control but a junior in college?
You're creating a narrative here that didn't exist.
The child in question went away to school at age 18, excelled in a science-heavy major, graduated in four years, and was offered a job before graduation. She's made great decisions, which her father and I have supported.
If she'd chosen to buy herself a car at 18 or 19, she could've done it -- but she was smart enough to realize she was fine on a college campus without a personal car.
IIRC this is the poster who has one of their kids (could be the one she's talking about in her prior comments can't remember) staying at home saving money (like $60K, $100K can't remember) towards their 401K at the expense of living on their own.
Yes, but you're twisting my daughter's choices.
My younger child is a senior in college, and the choice SHE has made is to return home after college and live with us (which is what she wants to do for the immediate future anyway). She's concerned that she's going into a rather low-paying profession, and she has set a goal to continue to live like a college student until she has $200,000 in savings. She has between 10-15% of this saved from part-time work during college, and her idea is to save while she's young /put this away so the magic of compound interest can work in her favor, and she'll be able to retire with a healthy nest egg. Her second goal -- after she has invested some serious money -- is to buy a couple duplexes to rent. She's still playing with that rental property goal, but she's rock-solid on wanting to put away real money while she's young.
Where'd she get these ideas? Reading books on finance. I think she's making good choices.