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- Jun 21, 2002
My sister is not doing good. Some of you know she lost her husband to cancer and less than 3 weeks later, my nephew, her first born son, died because the plane he flew up to scatter his dad's ashes crashed on take off, his brother is paralyzed from the waist down.
I live in VA, while the rest of my family(siblings) lives in MA. I talk to my grieving sister frequently on the phone or I text her to check in. She has said she doesn't like to talk about Scott, my nephew, so I keep the topic light, and basically ask her what I can do to help with my other nephew, and does he or even she, need anything.
We went on a cruise in November. Her and my niece joined us. My niece got her mom to try some different wines each night. My sister has never drank alcohol, not even a little. It was a fun cruise, and she was enjoying the "buzz" she got from the wine. I thought nothing of it.
Yesterday, I was talking on the phone with my younger sister. She told me she is concerned that our sister is turning into a "wino". She now has to drink every night. My younger sister did not tell me how much she drinks, but it is every night, and they went somewhere the other day, and my sister grabbed 2 bottles of wine to take home.
I know she is doing what she can to dull the pain, but I am worried she is going to make herself sick. I don't know what I can say to her. She is in a place I can only imagine. I don't know what I would do myself if I lost a child. Part of me says" She's a grown woman and if drinking helps her, even just a little, so be it." But the medical professional in me knows this can turn out to have a lethal consequence.
People think alcohol can help with the pain, but it doesn't. They end up drinking more and more to try to numb the pain, but eventually, that wears off.
What I can say to her that won't seem like I am trying to stop her from doing what she believes is helping her through these days?
I live in VA, while the rest of my family(siblings) lives in MA. I talk to my grieving sister frequently on the phone or I text her to check in. She has said she doesn't like to talk about Scott, my nephew, so I keep the topic light, and basically ask her what I can do to help with my other nephew, and does he or even she, need anything.
We went on a cruise in November. Her and my niece joined us. My niece got her mom to try some different wines each night. My sister has never drank alcohol, not even a little. It was a fun cruise, and she was enjoying the "buzz" she got from the wine. I thought nothing of it.
Yesterday, I was talking on the phone with my younger sister. She told me she is concerned that our sister is turning into a "wino". She now has to drink every night. My younger sister did not tell me how much she drinks, but it is every night, and they went somewhere the other day, and my sister grabbed 2 bottles of wine to take home.
I know she is doing what she can to dull the pain, but I am worried she is going to make herself sick. I don't know what I can say to her. She is in a place I can only imagine. I don't know what I would do myself if I lost a child. Part of me says" She's a grown woman and if drinking helps her, even just a little, so be it." But the medical professional in me knows this can turn out to have a lethal consequence.
People think alcohol can help with the pain, but it doesn't. They end up drinking more and more to try to numb the pain, but eventually, that wears off.
What I can say to her that won't seem like I am trying to stop her from doing what she believes is helping her through these days?