My husband and I have been trying for children for years but so far we haven't been able to have any. So, I'm working on being fulfilled without them. My in-laws have grandchildren and they constantly make it sound like the greatest thing in the world. In fact, my MIL often posts things on FB about "children are the rainbow and grandchildren are the pot of gold at the end." It honestly makes me feel pretty bad about myself.
On the other hand, my own parents are very supportive, never mention it and are happy to just spend time with my husband and I.
Sorry about the rant....
Having grandkids is not up to you.
I had a coworker once tell me that she felt sorry for me because I would never know true love because I didn't have a child. My husband and I are childless by choice. It was such an odd thing to say to someone.
I'm sorry if what I said about feeling incomplete was insensitive.
I appreciate your awareness but it's okay. I totally understand. I have a desire for children and when we came to the end of our fertility treatment road, I felt like I didn't have a purpose unless I was a mother. I have always wanted to be a mom, but sometimes the Man upstairs has different plans and overall I have peace about it, and have come to realize my purpose comes from somewhere (someOne) else.
Well, If an acquaintance tells you baloney like that, ignore it and don't give it a second thought. Friend? It might be time to expand the friend circle.I once had someone tell me that your life can be fulfilling without children but it can't be fulfilling without grandchildren.
I was like .
What do you think?
A combination of thoughtlessness and bragging rarely turns out well. I'm sorry your MIL is so unpleasant.My husband and I have been trying for children for years but so far we haven't been able to have any. So, I'm working on being fulfilled without them. My in-laws have grandchildren and they constantly make it sound like the greatest thing in the world. In fact, my MIL often posts things on FB about "children are the rainbow and grandchildren are the pot of gold at the end." It honestly makes me feel pretty bad about myself.
On the other hand, my own parents are very supportive, never mention it and are happy to just spend time with my husband and I.
Sorry about the rant....
People absolutely can have happy, fulfilled lives without children.I think that people can have fulfilling lives without children and grandchildren. My husband and I are childless by what I guess I would call choice. However, it was more of a timing/circumstance thing than we are horrible, selfish people kind of thing. I am only saying that because there are people who assume that because you do not have children you are either missing out on something huge or there is something wrong with you.
I once had someone tell me that your life can be fulfilling without children but it can't be fulfilling without grandchildren.
I was like .
What do you think?