Multiple thoughts:
- You're out of control (your debt-to-income ratio is outrageous), but you know it. Knowing is the first step in fixing the problem.
- You say you took out student loans to pay off credit cards. You can NEVER borrow your way out of debt. Restructuring debt is just moving the deck chairs on the Titanic.
- Get rid of your credit cards. You have a bad track record with them.
- You jokingly (I hope jokingly) say you're average. The average American is in debt and poorly prepared for retirement. Do not aim to be average.
- In another thread you say you're planning a trip in March, June or October. Bad idea. Your budget is on fire right now, and another Disney trip is a luxury you can't afford.
- In the entire world, there're only three ways -- only three ways! -- get out of debt: earn more, spend less, or both earn more AND spend less.
- In another thread you say that you're in retail. That's not a field that'll allow you to move up financially. You have student loans, so does that mean you have a degree? What can you do to move into a higher-paying job?
- Can you pick up a second job (short term) job until you have the debt paid-off? I know, doing that while you have two small children isn't a great idea, but neither is carrying all this debt.
- How can you lower your expenses? Can you get rid of cable TV, cut out fast food, brown bag your lunch, buy fewer clothes? LOTS of the things we buy are not necessities -- look seriously at where you can slash your budget. Don't say, "I don't want to give this up, or giving that up wouldn't be convenient." You're in trouble, and whatever you do will not be easy.
- Do you have two cars? Consider getting rid of one (yes, you can -- not easily, but you can). We did that for the first three years of our marriage, and it was a HUGE money saver -- really helped us get a good start /allowed us to stash away a bunch of money early in our adult lives.
- You have a one-year old? Are you paying child care? Could you start working opposite hours to eliminate child care? Do you have a relative who might help? OR, if your wife isn't working, can she take on a part-time job (while you're home) to bring in some money? Again, not convenient, not pleasant, but neither is staying in debt -- and if you can do something like this /bite the bullet, you'll get out of this situation in a hurry. If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll likely owe more in another year or two.
- You have a six-year old? You MUST get your financial situation under control before your kids are teens. Teens are more expensive than you expect, and if you aren't back on track by that point, you almost certainly won't "catch up" during that time frame -- and then suddenly you'll be on the cusp of retirement. NOW is the best time you'll ever have to fix this problem.
- Given your circumstances, moving to Orlando sounds like a pretty good idea -- after the current Corona crisis is over. At the moment, focus on paying off debt.
Good luck.