LisaR
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- Sep 26, 2000
Well the "advice" has run the gamut from throwing her out for not following our rules to she is an adult and we are too controlling with our expectations.
To me this is conflicting advice and not very helpful, honestly.
I don't want her to move out and end up quitting college, because without our support or a car, that will happen. She will not get into this program again, it's not something where you can skip a semester and just go back.
I don't want her "living with the consequences", if a decision made now is going to negativel impact her for the rest of her life.
I don't want to damage our relationship irreparably.
I don't want her dating this guy, but by telling her so she will dig in her heels and sneak around or move out. BUT, apparently, I shouldn't be telling her not to date him, as she is and adult.
So what "rules" should we have? Where do we cross the line from parenting to controlling?
Do you want advice or do you want all of us to tell you exactly what to do? You're the parent; you know your daughter best. Only you know what the situation is really like in your household. We can't be certain based on little snippets of information you have given. I don't think anyone who has commented so far has had a daughter in your DD's situation. The best we can do is offer up what we MIGHT do. These opinions will vary. Parenting can be difficult; very difficult! We can ask for advice from friends, family, and strangers, but in the end, we need to suck it up, be the parent and do what our gut tells us is the best thing for a difficult situation. It would be really nice if there was one right answer, a crystal ball, or a magic wand, but you know that isn't how it works. You've been given a lot of good advice. Now it is up to you to decide which way you think will work best for your family.