Ashley-
I saw your thread a couple of days ago but wanted to wait until I had thought out my response through before posting it. I am really feeling for you - I had a broken engagement when I was younger and thought it was truly the end of my world.
Of course I know now that it was not - in 2006 I married my prince at the WP - and he was worth waiting for. He is my match, my compliment, my biggest fan and the love of my life.
Do not settle for part of your dreams. If having children is something you cannot see yourself living without, you owe it to yourself not to settle for less. Your fairy tale day will come but not as the end of a planning period - but as the beginning of your love story.
You are too young to give up those possibilities. Someone wise once said, "When someone shows you who they are, believe them." (I think that is credited to Maya Angelou)
Your BF has shown you - and told you - who he is. He is a man who loves you but does not share your dreams for the future. You deserve a man who does share your vision of your life. He is out there and you cannot find him while you are with a man who does not.
I know how hard it is to let go of something you want so very much. I know how hard it is to wait for the unknown instead of keeping what you have, no matter how imperfect. But you only have one life - and you deserve to have it be as happy as it possibly can.
This is not about him - it is about you. What YOU want from YOUR life. If it doesn't fit with this man, there is an aswer there. Do not allow him to dictate the circumstances of your life. If biological children were not to be with another man, there could be adoption, foster parenting, surrogacy - those options still do not exist with your present partner. It is not only the possibility of biological children you are giving up.
I truly think that you know what you would prefer in your life, and I do not believe that this relationship is it. But only you know for sure. The castle will be there, there will still be weddings... but the happily ever after is not guaranteed. You owe it to yourself go in with the best chance of creating your own fairy tale.
Very best of luck to you-
Jennifer
Disney bride in 2006