scrapquitler
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- Aug 15, 2007
Maybe she was lying maybe not. You said you would like an honest answer about why she wasn't coming. What if it was also an answer you don't like? Maybe she just didn't want to go. Maybe she doesn't like your family. Who knows? She's a grownup and doesn't have to go to every party she's invited to. I probably wouldn't go to my sister in law or brother in laws mothers party unless it was something like 100th and it was going to be a big party like people do sometimes with an open bar etc. Just a regular meal in a restaurant I would probably turn it down too. Don't let your feeling get hurt. You were good to her Mother when she was in the hospital but if you weren't married to her son would you have still gone to the hospital? You're comparing apples and oranges. She doesn't owe you or your Mother because you were kind to your own Mother in law.
Bottom line, it doesn't matter if she has a "VALID" excuse for not coming to the party. You invited her, it was a mandated appearance. "I don't feel like going" is a valid excuse for not going to a party. She doesn't owe anyone any explanations, and you shouldn't have questioned her motives for declining the invitation.
And if I were going on a strict diet, yes, that would be a good reason for not going to a birthday party, I have very poor willpower and lots of family that would push "Oh, just have a little piece of cake" "What do you mean you can't eat that?" etc. Sometimes it's easier to stay home.