firecracker725
DIS Veteran
- Joined
- Apr 12, 2010
We've just learned that my BIL has lung cancer with bone metastases- stage IV. Five year survival is about 1%; in reality, we are talking 6-9 months. My SIL is devastated, of course, as are we all. She keeps going between horror- what am I going to do- and being drunk- understandable, I am not passing judgement on this. However, she's said she doesn't know what to do financially, where to turn, what's available, etc. I don't know what kind of questions to ask her, or what to suggest when she asks. Is there someplace/one to turn to for help and advice in this kind of situation? They are both in their 60s, he's retired railroad and a veteran. She's on disability from a car accident 20 years ago. No will, no life insurance, nothing substantial in the savings. They own their house, but she's not sure if her name is on it or not. What kinds of things should they be preparing? I can think of some things- file a will, get onto the bank accounts and house, cars, etc., but what other things should she deal with now, so when he passes away her financial life will go as smoothly and be as secure as possible? Right now we are all just reeling with this news; I know there're things she should consider, but my thoughts aren't exactly straight right now, either. TIA.
(For the record, YES, she has asked me these questions and for help, and NO, there's not a lot of money/worth being discussed.)
When my mother entered hospice care, I kept myself "busy" planning her funeral. I chose flowers, a casket, a burial plot, etc. I contacted her pastor and the funeral home to outline the services. When the time came, I was so thankful that all those decisions had already been made. Of course, I lived abroad at the time, so I had a big enough worry in trying to plan a very long trip at the last minute.