My college senior DD is interviewing for jobs right now. She is looking far and wide - location wise and hopefully job description wise. She will probably get a job offer from a staffing company in Pittsburg as a recruiter. We live in Virginia and her university is also in Virginia. I asked why she was looking at Pittsburg (the company had open positions in other states as well). She said she researched and it is a good city for college grads. I asked who she’d live with if she moved there. She has no idea. It would probably be better/more fun if she moved to a city where some of her college friends were also moving. Then she’d have a built in support network. This is exactly what her brother and his friends/fraternity brothers did when they graduated in 2019. He lives with some brothers and is within walking distance of some of his closest college friends. It has made the difficult transition from college student (surrounded with fun and social opportunities) to working adult (with less free time and fewer social opportunities) a little easier.
Now after the 3rd interview as she learns more about the job/company, she’s reconsidering Pittsburg. The office in Pittsburg only has 11 people in it; her starting salary would be low - $35000 plus commission, and she doesn’t know a soul in the city nor are any of her friends considering moving there. She’s been focusing on staffing companies and recruiter positions because that’s what she did for her summer internship. I’m sure the familiar seems safe and comfortable. But she’s finding that recruiter jobs don’t pay well. DH and I have been trying to get her to go outside of her comfort zone job description wise. Hopefully she’ll keep applying and interviewing for a variety of job types and have multiple offers that give her choices in location, salary and job type. I just want my girl to be happy (and to be able to support herself)!
OP, I feel your pain. Just thinking about everything above gives me anxiety. I try to just put it all out of my mind, but she’s my baby. I did ok when my son moved away to start his career because he was only 2 hours away; he lived with friends, and he’d landed his dream job with a great salary. I adjusted ok, but he still, almost 2 years later, misses college life very badly.