For my family, we simply don't go to those places.
We tried to vacation elsewhere, my DS can't handle it.
Disney has been a godsend for our family. At age 6 it was the first place he pooped on a toilet instead of his pants (TMI?). At age 10 it was the first time he looked at a server in a restaurant and ordered for himself. At Age 13 we are working on pin trading with CM's as a way to socialize him.
I'm lucky, he doesn't loop, and if a standby wait is less than 30 minutes we can tough it out.
In the past we were able to plan a social story with him regarding the oder of his rides. For those not familiar with social story its sort of like dress rehearsal were you plan the schedule of events.
" First Jungle Cruise, the POTC, then BTMRR. "
He gets to the point where he repeats the above sentence over and over for weeks before a trip.
When the schedule does not go according to plan there is often screaming and flailing and jumping.
When he was younger, it was easy to manage, but as he gets bigger, this behavior gets harder. As inappropriate as that Hippie lady was, I really did feel for her in that regard. I can't imagine how i would explain to my son that because he is now bigger than I can handle, he could no longer go to his favorite place
The old system helped our family greatly. I am going next week with a positive attitude and a smile on my face. I'm happy that I don't have to take him to the ride for the return time, he would freak if we approached Buzz Light Year and he couldn't ride it.
I have gone alone with him on "Mommy and Me" trips a few times in the past.. Not sure if we'll be able to manage those under the new system.
I don't qualify for FP+ next week. In the future I hope FP+ alleviates some worry.