TheIncredibles!
Winner (?) of the Crazy MIL Award
- Joined
- Nov 7, 2010
irst of all - ignore the comments from the few that are projecting their own disappointments onto you and making it seem as if you don't want this baby. I know you are thrilled to be having a baby.
It's NORMAL to wish for one gender or another and to think you will be disappointed. Many women and men have a preference for one reason or another and may experience some disappointment or doubt. As other have said when your baby is born you will take one look at him or her and what you thought you wanted just won't matter. In fact it's very likely you will take one look at the ultrasound, find out the baby is healthy and just won't care if it's a boy or a girl.
Having said that I too wanted a girl with my first. I wanted the relationship I did NOT have with my mom. My first was a boy and there was a small moment when I was sad but it really was very brief and to be honest at that point it was more over not getting to decorate a frilly nursery @@
I have 2 sons and a daughter now. I love my daughter to pieces, I am so glad I have her but my sons are my little love bugs. (they are 14 and 9, my dd is 11)You have no idea what the connection is between a mom and her boys until you have a boy. It's totally different in so many different ways.
Congratulations!
It's NORMAL to wish for one gender or another and to think you will be disappointed. Many women and men have a preference for one reason or another and may experience some disappointment or doubt. As other have said when your baby is born you will take one look at him or her and what you thought you wanted just won't matter. In fact it's very likely you will take one look at the ultrasound, find out the baby is healthy and just won't care if it's a boy or a girl.
Having said that I too wanted a girl with my first. I wanted the relationship I did NOT have with my mom. My first was a boy and there was a small moment when I was sad but it really was very brief and to be honest at that point it was more over not getting to decorate a frilly nursery @@
I have 2 sons and a daughter now. I love my daughter to pieces, I am so glad I have her but my sons are my little love bugs. (they are 14 and 9, my dd is 11)You have no idea what the connection is between a mom and her boys until you have a boy. It's totally different in so many different ways.
Congratulations!