My MIL has out of the blue stated she no longer wants to have me anywhere in her life, doesn't want to speak to me, have me over to her house, ect. Just a note about MIL, extreme and out of the blue hissy fits with no reasoning behind them are her norm.
Now this has been a long time coming, MIL and I have never gotten along, like mixing oil and water. She is a control freak, has always tried to meddle in our relationship which DH put a stop to years ago. She frequently also tends to forget that she is DD's grandmother and not her mother (does not recognize boundaries of any sort). She has never really liked me from day one anyway, I was the total opposite of what she wanted her son to marry. I rarely even talk to the woman anymore except when necessary but have always kept it polite. I don't get involved in her relationship with DH, that is between them and I have never tried to keep her from seeing DD. DH tries to limit the time he interacts with her also. But besides me, she has also cut off DH and our daughter. DH and she are still speaking so he told her whenever she is ready to see her GD then the door is always open and left it at that.
I told DH I was getting off the crazy train and just don't feel like hearing any of the drama anymore. We are slowly putting more walls up which is the only way to really get along with her in any fashion these days. She used to pick up DD from school twice a week to spend time with her and announced she will not be doing that any longer. We have been planning on hiring a college student to take those days over from her anyway, DD doesn't enjoy spending a lot of time with her these days. She has pulled similar stunts before but this is the most extreme. We just ignore most of her drama and don't react to it which is what we think she is looking for.
My question is - have any of you ever cut yourself off or been cut off from a close relative like this? My heart is not breaking by any means but I will be curious to see how she behaves if we happen to run into her at church, ect. The whole thing is just nuts.
Now this has been a long time coming, MIL and I have never gotten along, like mixing oil and water. She is a control freak, has always tried to meddle in our relationship which DH put a stop to years ago. She frequently also tends to forget that she is DD's grandmother and not her mother (does not recognize boundaries of any sort). She has never really liked me from day one anyway, I was the total opposite of what she wanted her son to marry. I rarely even talk to the woman anymore except when necessary but have always kept it polite. I don't get involved in her relationship with DH, that is between them and I have never tried to keep her from seeing DD. DH tries to limit the time he interacts with her also. But besides me, she has also cut off DH and our daughter. DH and she are still speaking so he told her whenever she is ready to see her GD then the door is always open and left it at that.
I told DH I was getting off the crazy train and just don't feel like hearing any of the drama anymore. We are slowly putting more walls up which is the only way to really get along with her in any fashion these days. She used to pick up DD from school twice a week to spend time with her and announced she will not be doing that any longer. We have been planning on hiring a college student to take those days over from her anyway, DD doesn't enjoy spending a lot of time with her these days. She has pulled similar stunts before but this is the most extreme. We just ignore most of her drama and don't react to it which is what we think she is looking for.
My question is - have any of you ever cut yourself off or been cut off from a close relative like this? My heart is not breaking by any means but I will be curious to see how she behaves if we happen to run into her at church, ect. The whole thing is just nuts.